Some interesting OLD prospects...
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| Sat, 07-05-2008 - 5:24am |
Guy #1 = Hemi I met online right after my split with my heart breaker. We've been talking and texting back and forth for a month now but we've never met. Well, Thursday night he was online and we got to talking. Well, we both have season passes to the amusement park here.. and we were both going to be at the amusement park for the 4th of July. So, for the first time ever I got fixed up for the park lol. Had my little shorts on, nice v-neck top, big jackie-o glasses, and and my hair pulled up all messy. I felt stylin' lol. I found a nice long line for a ride that the girls would enjoy and we finally got to visit. It was nice.. he's a big guy, I love big guys. So, we're planning on going out either Wednesday or Sunday... FINALLY lol.
Guy #2 = KoH part deux! lol. Handsome as all get out, very impressive business owner. So incredibly lonely, coaches softball for his kids team.. just an all around impressive guy. But like KoH he is WAY to recently separated. Why does this keep happening to me? lol. However, he's a good guy and lonely so I gave him my recently separated lecture, and told him that he was welcome to join me for the single parents gatherings, and if he ever needs company, conversation and coffee to let me know. I'm to nice, and I have a hard time walking away from people that seem to be generally good people.
Then, I sat in traffic for three hours to get out of the amusement park, and all I could think about was my heartbreaker and how much I miss him. I don't know if I miss HIM or if I just miss that mutual feeling of just adoring eachother. Its so rare when I find that, and really feel it. I'm still having a hard time letting go. He plays in a dart league, and his schedule is online. I keep telling myself do NOT be the psycho ex that just "shows up" at the bar by "accident". I can't help but think about it... I know I won't though. I guess I just have this all in my head that if he were to see me again he'd remember how great it was. But I just have to remind myself if it was so great on his end we'd still be together. I'm still just so lost as to why that had to end. But then again maybe I'm just missing the feeling.. not him. I don't know.
So onward I go.. OLD ftw! lol

#1 sounds very promising - my fingers are crossed for you!!
And good call on #2 - you are SMART not to fall for the recently separated trap!! That can only go in one direction. Timing IS everything, which can be good or bad.
I think it is natural to think about the ex - but he is an ex for a reason and there is no going back - so try not to think too much!!
Keep us posted on #1!!
~~Tiny
I love walking in the rain, because no one knows I'm crying..........
~Karen˙·٠•●♥Ƹ̵̡Ӝ
I'm worried about #1 though because our schedules are totally horrible together. I'm also scared to death of men that have no children now after my heartbreaker.
and by then, it was too late."
Have to agree with West, keep moving forward with new interests and keep being smart about not getting involved with guys who are really not yet available.
As for the old flame, it is only natural to be wistful about the good times. I occasionally think about 3 Month Fling Guy that way, but quickly remind myself that there were way too many things that were not right. Yes, the mutual passion was there, but the reality was we just did not fit together for so many other reasons. Those kinds of relationships do serve a purpose, they help us heal from the divorce. But those relationships by their very nature are destined to be short. So don't dwell on the past, keep moving forward!
QueenBun
So what do you guys think of this?
I'm very nervous of the moving to fast stuff, but Hemmy (guy #1) did something tonight that didn't feel rushed or pushy.. it felt very kinda sorta romantic lol.
He called and said "I want to kiss you". lol. I was really drawn into it I guess.. and was game. So he drove over, gave me a knock your socks off kiss on the porch, talked for a few mins, gave me a few more great kisses and left. LOL
He dosn't feel pushy at all even though he did this spontaneous kiss thing.. we're still at "yah we'll go out either Wednesday or Sunday" he's not burning up my phone.. and oh thank god I didn't get the "oh you're going to be trouble" line after we kissed. God what I once thought was a compliment has turned into the kiss of death line that makes me cringe and just count down the days till they run off lol.
He just seems more settled than any man I've dated latly, so we'll see how this goes. Just thought I'd share my night :)
I'm finally off to bed (me and my crazy night shift schedule! lol)
and by then, it was too late."