someone throwing a monkey wrench

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Registered: 03-25-2002
someone throwing a monkey wrench
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 4:54pm

My middle child's daddy... being a poo head because I'm moving.. Here's a guy that for the past 3 yrs has lived on the same street but only sees his son 4 times a month (and most days he cancels)... and never overnight. He's been so hands off for years, but I say I'm moving and he gripes. He said, how about ds8 stay with me til the end of the school year. I said, no, I've already spoken to the school about him moving and transfering paperwork, etc. No big deal... Of course, I'm NOT leaving my son behind to a man who's never spent that much time with him since birth.. gimme a break.

The ex replied "i'll have to check our agreement about how much notice you are suppose to give me before you move...."

venting... why does someone have to throw a monkey wrench into the best thing that has ever happened to me.. my big promotion. :(

I don't have anything to worry about, do i? A part of me knows that I don't and I should go back to celebrating.... thanks for the support.

Loonybunny

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Tue, 02-19-2008 - 5:01pm

No--I don't think you have anything to worry about!

April

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Tue, 02-19-2008 - 5:22pm

Thank you sooo much for your words of support.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 02-19-2008 - 8:05pm
Well, maybe you want to let him know when you will be back in town so he can see his kid? 4 times a month is not exactly stellar - but it is a tad of something. I would explain that this is an excellent opportunity for you and your children - and that you will be back in town on these days (I remember you saying you would come back regularly?) and you can call and coordinate if he wants to have a visit. I would also explain that this shouldn't upset things too much and that you will make his son available for an entire weekend? He is probably worried he will be left out. Sometimes what someone IMAGINES is worse than what is to come and no knowledge feeds demons - so you can give him the knowledge that not much will change (since he is doing so little - but you will bite your tongue on that one, eh? LOL!!)
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 02-19-2008 - 10:13pm
I agree. & what would be interesting is if you told him that you will be happy to meet him 1/2 way, like everyother weekend, & he can have son 2 full days & nites.

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