Sorry I haven't been around much...

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Sorry I haven't been around much...
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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 10:39am

I have been lurking and I think I responded to a few posts but that is all the time I have had in the past couple of weeks. Between homework, my grandmother passing, trying to juggle 2-3 men, and keeping things around the house half way decent, I have been loony! But I have been reading everyone's posts to keep up with what has been going on. Don't want to lose touch!

Okay, the men situation...The firefighter is not much of a communicator and I think he just wants me for one thing. I'm not into that so not much more than emailing is going on there! lol

Next is the guy I graduated high school with. He is a good match in my eyes but there is one thing that bothers me...he drinks a lot. He said that Fri and Sat nights, he and his close friends get together and drink and they don't just stop when they get a buzz either. His friends are all younger than we are (21-26). I have already told him that that was not my scene and that I know when to stop myself when I do go out to have a drink. He told me that last night, a friend of his he hadn't seen in a while came over and they drank and talked. No problem with that but he said he had a hangover this morning and didn't get into bed until 4. He had to work this morning too! That bothers me. I'm just thinking that he should be able to control that especially on a night before he has to go into work. Don't get me wrong, I like to go out and drink and I can count on one hand the times that I have been over my usual limit but it wasn't to the point that I was throwing up or passing out. That's just not me. I'm hoping that speaking my mind about the drinking will bring him around but if it doesn't then we will just have to maintain being friends and that is it. I grew up with alcholoism in my family and I just can't tolerate it in a relationship.

This next guy is new. I think I have talked about him before but we were just emailing at the time. He lives over an hour away but he is VERY nice! Just my luck! lol We met Sunday night for dinner and then watched fireworks. He is an ex-cop, had been one for 17 years and just got tired of working at all hours and not having a regular schedule. Now he owns his own subcontracting business and is remodeling his house. My mom is not too happy about this one because she puts cops into a stereotype of being adulterers and it's only because she "dated" a man who was a married cop. She knew better. She also worked around them and they did cheat a lot but that doesn't mean that ALL cops are like that. I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt as I do everyone. I try not to judge before I know a person. By the way he talks, he is a little shy until you get to know him, he stands for what he believes in, and has values and morals. He is very old school and is the perfect gentleman. He is also 6'3" which is good. :) He loves to talk and I'm so glad! lol He has invited me to have a cookout at his house and then go to a neighboring city to watch fireworks. My sister's bday party is Wed so I may just go up to see the fireworks with him after the party. I'm trying to look at this distance thing as being able to have my space and do my own thing but then maybe seeing each other on the weekends or something. We shall see.

Well I wanted to give you all an update and to let you know I'm here, just swamped!

I hope everyone has a happy 4th!

Jennifer

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Tue, 07-03-2007 - 12:54pm
Hey Jennifer! Wow! sounds like you do have a lot of juggling going on. So are you going to keep holding on to all three or continue a new search. The drinking thing would definitely bother me, the fireman too. As for the 3rd one, I'd keep him around a little. Judy was stereotyping her lifeguard, but so far he looks like he is a little more out of the mold of what she thought. So you never know! I'm glad I have tomorrow off to just clean, get some sun and sleep. :)
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 07-03-2007 - 1:48pm

Sounds like you are doing good! Keep us posted - so glad you stopped by. I don't think you can stereotype the cops - I have a very good friend who is a cop and he really loves his fiance and puts her at the center of the world and is a great guy. The biggest concern I would have, that I don't think you have is the hours and the stress - but he doesn't have that now.

I agree with what you write about drinking - nothing good ever comes of too much and the ones who have too much never think they are the ones who have too much.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 07-04-2007 - 6:32am
ABSOLUTELY agree about the drinking guy - & I would even go so far as to NEXT him right now. B/c leaopards do NOT change their spots ... for anyone.

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