A sort of etiquette question
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| Mon, 02-21-2005 - 10:08am |
Do you correct a person that doesn't know you very well when they refer to your ex as your husband?
Here's the situation:
I took the kids to a classmate's birthday party yesterday. Her parents are extremely nice people, but they don't know us very closely. They've seen the kids with me or with their father, and sometimes together at school functions. So I was talking to the mom yesterday, and she said "Oh, your husband (blah, blah)..." I first wanted to say "He's my ex-husband", but then thought it might embarrass her and it really didn't matter that much, in that particular situation.
I have corrected their teachers before, because I think it's more important for them to know the kids have two homes they spend time in. Sometimes I refer to my ex as "the boys' father", and some people pick up on that, but not always.
So, what do you do? Do you keep your mouth shut if it's not a big deal? Do you speak up? Do you care? : )
Thanks,
Galina

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I can totally relate to how you felt when she said that!!
I would not cause a scene in front of other people. And if she is someone I see on a regular basis I would give her the update somehow in a tactful manner. Otherwise I would let it blow by.
Hi DEB!
Just wanted to pop in on this thread (even though I've ZERO input as I've never been divorced and can't imagine how I'd feel) to say hi there, and hope you pop in more often!
Hey Becky! I lurk here daily-I just had to chime in on this one!
How are you feeling? Is the pregnancy going good so far for you? You've been in my thoughts.
Thanks for the welcome ;)
Deb
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