Speaking of Carlos ...

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Speaking of Carlos ...
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 4:46am

How come he cant just be a jerk? lol


Last Sat AM he called me to say hello. I was just on my way into the cemetary with dd to see my moms grave site.

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Registered: 11-20-2003
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 8:34am

The donut story is very touching. What a gorgeous idea and what a sweet little girl.

Clem xx

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 5:41pm
Your DD sounds so sweet!! It sounds like you have so many wonderful memories of your mom. I can only imagine how hard that must be for you - our deepest sympathy for your pain. For sure.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 10:16pm
Thanks girls. My mom was THE best!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 10:24pm

Queenbum, & whomever else ... just want to clarify since on the OLD board, I got myself into hot water, AGAIN, lol.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 10:41pm

HA - "the universe granting you something when you are happy with yourself" - that is a silly and maddening statement. I had to chime in.

I do believe that when you are happy with yourself that you are in a better state of mind to be true to yourself, attract someone good and not settle so to speak. But this in no way is a "ticket" to getting a MrRight! As if it was THAT easy. NOT.

I do think you see that Carlos is not well in the emotional department for being able to commit. And we all commend you for getting out when you did and for realizing that he was not going to pony up what you want.

The only worry I would have is that if you are still communicating a lot with him you are going to dwell on all the things you liked so much and idolize him in your mind, thus you might not have an open mind for someone new who is a little different but can turn out to be wonderful if given the time - you will compare too much. But that is just a tiny worry of mine. And you are a big girl who is MORE than capable of taking care of yourself. What you did with school, your career, keeping your house, getting rid of your exh - those are all very commendable and they show that you are strong.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 7:03pm
You don't have to justify your life to anyone. I totally understand your need to try to convince people otherwise, but really you're in a good space and doing well. The right guy will come along. He may not be super rich or super handsome, but he's out there and he'll be great.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 1:28am
Thanks. I know, youre right!

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