Speaking of a little flirting

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Speaking of a little flirting
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 1:37pm

Speaking of a little flirting, I felt good this morning, too.

Yesterday my son started school and while he was waiting for the bus, I saw a nice looking man waiting with his son.... Normally when I see a man with a child, I assume he's married and don't make eye contact... But not the new me... the new me flirts with everyone....lol.

This morning at the bus stop, he was back. This time he had two children with him... he put the kindergardener on the bus at the corner... Then asked what time my son gets on his bus.... He was looking for a closer bus stop for his daughter. While he waited, we all chatted. I asked what grade the girl was in, ect... I ask my son if she was in his class. She looked taller than her age so I told my neighbor.... "Well, you're tall..." (a subtle flirt... but a flirt nontheless). Unfortuntately, i'm pretty sure he is married... he said, well she's not mine (she was his step daughter). He mentioned his real daughter is even taller.

But even though he turned out to be married, I'm please with myself that I was social.... the old me would not have even said a word.... (I am glad I didn't flirt more obvious. LOL)

Loonybunny

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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 2:12pm

I call that practice flirting. Keeps your confidence honed for the real thing.

good for you!

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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 4:26pm
Good stuff, Loonybunny!
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 4:35pm
Cool! Awesome that you are doing the rounds! Practice makes perfect and that will make you more comfortable towards: Hot BUTT!
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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 7:59am

Good for you for taking a first step!

I find a couple of things funny, not really funny, just different. One of them is that my kids don't start school for another whole month. Odd how we aren't really all that far apart, and yet our school schedules are way different! We also don't get out of school for summer until mid to late June.

Another is that I have witnessed women who immediately assume a man with a child who doesn't have a woman with him is fair game. funnyguy was with my son in another aisle when we were shopping and two different women approached him. I came around the corner, and could only laugh- to me, it was funny. That's not to say that they wouldn't have were he not with Droid, but after conducting an informal poll at the office, most men agreed they were approached more with their children, even the ones wearing rings, and most women agreed they usually assumed a man in public with a child was divorced.

I guess maybe society tends to assume a man who spends time with a child does so because there's no woman to do it for him? I don't know the real reason, because like you, I tend to assume men with children are married.

Either way, those are my morning observations.

Have fun, and keep getting out there!

Moody, who hasn't done the ring check in ages


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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 9:31am
I used to think every man was either married or taken.... probably because i was afraid of rejection... and if i failed to "flirt" or say hello or even just smile... i had that sour grapes attitude... he was probably married... But, whatever the reason, I used to worry about flirting with a married man. I thought that I'd feel stupid or wrong... Now I guess, I take more chances and worry less.... I need to really get an attitude of "every man is fair game until proven taken"...LOL.
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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 11:53am

Funny you mention that men with children are approached more often...in a similar, sort-of-related situation, my Ex called me this past Sat morning to mention that he was planning on taking our girls to a local music festival. He asked if I could please dress them in two specific adorable little outfits. Clearly he was trolling for women using our daughters as bait!

I had to laugh. I really dolled them up too because I want him to MOVE ON! LOL!

Rose (who has a feeling she probably gets approached LESS often when I am out with my children... ;-)

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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 2:21pm

I had to laugh. Funny how women seem to be more attracted to dads or just men that are good with kids. Men seem to shy away from women with kids a lot of the time.

HMMMMM... Do you think you can attract a man with a puppy???

Priscilla

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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 2:36pm

OMG! YES, MEN WITH DOGS! You can definitely attract a guy with a puppy, before you can attract a guy with a child! LOL.

Too funny and yes, I do the ring check or I check them out. I have stopped and asked them for advice. Usually in the Sauce/Marinade aisle, where men LOVE to talk BBQ and dry rub! LOL
I am very smart, so I would put my left and up and point from one item to the next. ENSURING my dears that my ring finger was EMPTY and then with a thank you and a smile, I would just walked away. Acting as if it was NOTHING BUT asking something. If I noticed them following into my aisles and try to make conversation again, I would take it they weren't taken. So far I've been right on the money.

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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 2:43pm

I think it boils down to that whole "perception" that men with children must not be afraid of committment and are also able to show their "softer more sensitive" side....

Meanwhile 'back-at-the-ranch' women with children are often seen as needy or helpless and in need of a 'knight-in-shining-armour"

....on the 'puppy proposition' .... I totally agree - who can possibly resist an adorable wee little pup...?!?!?!

Rose ...bare foot and puppy-less... ;P

Rosecolouredspecs
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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 2:47pm

And please ask me.....

If I hate that cliche'!!! UGH! The helpless side is so sucky! I am so not that type of woman and I know many that can really pull it off well. I can't, which is the reason I am going on 7 years of singlehood.

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