Spending the night question

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Spending the night question
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Sun, 09-28-2008 - 7:52am

My kids are teens and responsible. But I am not sure how to handle nights away from them. I have been asked to spend the night with EMT but so far I have opted to come home and be with the kids. So how does everyone else handle the kid issue? My kids' dad is not part of their life so I have them full time. They are quite capable of being alone and I have left the older one alone for a few days so I could take the younger to the lake. I set up my oldest (21) to check in on her while we were gone.

I dont want to have EMT stay over my house with the kids there but I am not sure how I feel about staying at his house overnight either.

Ideas?

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 9:36am

For me, I would rather stay over at his place rather than mine, just because of the morning with the kids thing. My kids dad is really not in their lives, either, so I understand where you are coming from.

Can you arrange for the kids to have sleepovers at friends houses? Any relatives nearby? You could just tell people you want to go away overnight...and since you are in the same 24/7 situation with the kids, many people may want to give you a little respite. You don't have to tell anyone where you are going as long as you have a cell phone.

Hope that helps.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 1:30pm
I recall the two at home are 17 and 12, right? I like the sleepover idea :)
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Sun, 09-28-2008 - 2:37pm
I agree.

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 7:12pm
Well on the times I have stayed the night my brother or dad stays with the kids (mine are younger). We don't stay the night at my place ever.
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Sun, 09-28-2008 - 8:50pm

Mine havent had sleepovers in years. I think they go by the way side when the kids get into high school. I could have my oldest stop by and check on them. DD17 did well when I took the younger one to the lake for a few days.

Laurie

anonymous
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Sun, 09-28-2008 - 8:53pm

They are 13 and 17. They are both really good. The 17 year old is a life guard and current in all her CPR and first aid stuff. I think if it ever comes up again (hopefully) I will get the oldest (21) to stop by.

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 8:54pm

I agree. I dont think I will ever have him stay the night. The kids do better when I keep my relationships separate from my family life.

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 9:57pm
If we made a serious commitment (marriage) that might be a different story but until then it's a no no for me. Of course he hasn't met the kids yet either. Not ready for that.
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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 12:14pm

Mine is only 11 and so before I moved in with BE I would only stay at his place when she went to a friends house or if her dad had her for the night. He never stayed at my place when she was there either.


Even though 13 and 17 are probably responsible enough to be alone overnight, I know with me I would worry. Not that thay would do anything wrong but I'd worry about an emergency or something. But thats just me.. so I my only suggestion would be to maybe see if your 21 y/o would stay there with them just for one night every couple weeks...you could pay your 21 y/o to do that maybe- some extra cash never hurts!

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