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The Sperm Donor
| Fri, 09-21-2007 - 11:27am |
So... Last night, I was having a drink with my business partner going over some new business ideas when I get a text message from my 14 year old DD.

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Wow, I am so sorry to hear about the drama that your DD's "dad" created yesterday. To say his erratic participation is irritating, irresponsible and immature is a total understatement. It's sad that some men can't get past themselves far enough top see what is best for their own kids. His inconsistent way of just showing up whenever it is convenient for him is so selfish! How is your parent relationship with him? Do you have a way of communicating with him where he respects your rules over visitation with your kids? I would be pretty mad if my DD's dad was pulling that kind of thing. I can relate to the drama that he creates though. My ex would totally over react to a strong warning..no doubt. I think if I was in your shoes I would lay down the law and tell him that he needs to show up when expected, or else it hurts the girls. And if he doesn't follow through then he shouldn't be allowed to just pop in whenever he darn well pleases. That is a tough one.
On a positive note, it really sounds like your DD has a great head on her shoulders, and feels confidant and sane because she has you there to talk to and assure her she is safe and on solid ground. Way to go for being so solid and supportive...isn't it great to see how consistency, love and patience pays off by turning our kids into confidant young people?
Have a great weekend!
~Pacific~
Thanks for your encouragement and kind words.
< wish I had about a year of time to sit down and vent with you about my oldest DD's sperm donor>
SHUCKS!
Cat,
Is there no way to garnish his wages?
Oh dear - what a drama. But it sounds like you handled it the best you could - I like how you guys sat indian style on the bed and talked it out.
I would put a visitation schedule up - he can take it or leave it. I would probably try NOT to let him in the house - but that is just me and my preference. My exh is not allowed in my house because hie is too nosy. But you weren't there and there was a storm.
Good luck!!
He barely has wages to garnish and I'm not spending one cent to go after him, just so
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