The Sperm Donor

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The Sperm Donor
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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 11:27am

So... Last night, I was having a drink with my business partner going over some new business ideas when I get a text message from my 14 year old DD.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
In reply to: mnmoon70
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 2:27pm

Wow, I am so sorry to hear about the drama that your DD's "dad" created yesterday. To say his erratic participation is irritating, irresponsible and immature is a total understatement. It's sad that some men can't get past themselves far enough top see what is best for their own kids. His inconsistent way of just showing up whenever it is convenient for him is so selfish! How is your parent relationship with him? Do you have a way of communicating with him where he respects your rules over visitation with your kids? I would be pretty mad if my DD's dad was pulling that kind of thing. I can relate to the drama that he creates though. My ex would totally over react to a strong warning..no doubt. I think if I was in your shoes I would lay down the law and tell him that he needs to show up when expected, or else it hurts the girls. And if he doesn't follow through then he shouldn't be allowed to just pop in whenever he darn well pleases. That is a tough one.


On a positive note, it really sounds like your DD has a great head on her shoulders, and feels confidant and sane because she has you there to talk to and assure her she is safe and on solid ground. Way to go for being so solid and supportive...isn't it great to see how consistency, love and patience pays off by turning our kids into confidant young people?


Have a great weekend!


~Pacific~

~Pacific~
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In reply to: mnmoon70
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 2:48pm
I can SOOO relate! I wish I had about a year of time to sit down and vent with you about my oldest DD's sperm donor. It's an AWFUL word to use, but it's just how it is. I'm fed up as well. He didn't even send her a birthday card last weekend and I had to beg him per text message to call and say happy birthday. He did, which was a first! No child support, no asking how she is, no nothing. Just a freaking jerk! And my dd is doing so great too! I'm so proud of her and how she handles the situation. I hope it doesn't explode one day.
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In reply to: mnmoon70
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 2:55pm

Thanks for your encouragement and kind words.

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In reply to: mnmoon70
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 3:33pm

< wish I had about a year of time to sit down and vent with you about my oldest DD's sperm donor>

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Registered: 04-08-2003
In reply to: mnmoon70
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 3:40pm
WE could be twins! We almost even have the same haircut! :) What state do you live and I might drive over to drink a bottle!
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In reply to: mnmoon70
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 3:53pm
I'm in Minnesota.
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In reply to: mnmoon70
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 4:01pm

SHUCKS!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: mnmoon70
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 8:22pm

Cat,


Is there no way to garnish his wages?


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In reply to: mnmoon70
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 5:42am

Oh dear - what a drama. But it sounds like you handled it the best you could - I like how you guys sat indian style on the bed and talked it out.

I would put a visitation schedule up - he can take it or leave it. I would probably try NOT to let him in the house - but that is just me and my preference. My exh is not allowed in my house because hie is too nosy. But you weren't there and there was a storm.

Good luck!!

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In reply to: mnmoon70
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 9:27am

He barely has wages to garnish and I'm not spending one cent to go after him, just so

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