Starting to analyze this, need advise

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Starting to analyze this, need advise
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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 3:28pm

Ok, I put on the two cents emoticom, because I need it. I haven't dated anyone that I really like and I haven't written about anyone in ages worth writing about. Well, that has changed. I met someone awhile back in a pet store. He is an assist mngr their and he came up to me when he heard me speaking German and we just hit it off. He told me his schedule and asked me to come and see him again. I didn't for about 4 weeks, then I went in last Saturday and he saw me, remembered everything about me and we just got hooked. The chemical reaction is TOTALLY their. He has a great head on his shoulders and his pet store job is only to help feed his dogs, because he is a police dog trainer and travels all over the world giving lectures and training his dogs for across the U.S. and abroad. He is just soooo smart and I just feel so smitten by him. I can't explain it. ANYWAY, he is in the middle of a custody battle, has his business, this other job and is taking classes, so he is as busy as I am. Almost every evening after work, he goes to see his son, that he moved here for, to tuck him into bed.


Moving along.......


So he asked that I come by again to see him. I didn't want to start having conversations at his

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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 8:14pm
Babe, it's a very tepid response. Do you really think his reply was flirty? I only found it polite and most definitely platonic.
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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 9:35pm

Hey Kat - good to see you back.

In my opinion he wants to be platonic right now. It sounds like you might have some things in common but he sounds very transitional and I am not sure if that would ever change.

How is your move going?

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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 11:49pm

My advice is never date someone going through a custody battle!

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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 11:55am

Thanks everyone,


Yeah, you are all right. To much drama again and I don't know what he meant by flirty. I REALLY like him, but that doesn't mean anything. I wrote him back very platonic as well. Thanked him for

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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 12:54pm

Hi Kat,

I am glad to see you back here. I know that it is tough to move - it seems that it is natural to have expectations that some things will be better - and maybe they are - but you do get new problems to replace them.

In time you will develop new friends and new things to do and then you will probably feel more adjusted. I know when I moved here I did not like it that much for the first 2 years. Now I love it and have so many new friends and activities. I think you just have to focus on expanding your social zone and trying new things.

It is great that you are dating 3 nice men and trying to keep an open mind. You never know when an attraction will take place. And if it doesn't then you will have new friends.

I do hope you keep us posted.

How are the girls doing?

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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 3:34pm

Cat:

No one else mentioned this, so I will. Sounds to me that the guy from the pet store has an ax to grind with women; sounds like he's been real hurt an is not over it yet. He needs to get over all of that before he can be in a new relationship. Maybe he knows that, that is why he wants to keep things platonic. Just go on with your life. If he e-mails you or calls you and you want to talk to him, then do it; if you don't; then don't.

You are so much like me, it's scary. Miss Independent, but would love to find Mr. Right. I always wanted Mr. Right to come along, but lived my life by myself for so long, I hope I don't scare him away if he does come around.

Now that you are back in the states, I can come visit you -- and I really mean that. A weekend trip would be great. E-mail me and I'll give you my phone number so we can talk. It's hard to make friends, but you're outgoing, so it won't take you long. Hang in there, it will get better.

So glad you're back. Hugs.

Donna