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| Sun, 06-17-2007 - 4:06pm |
where is a good place to meet guys or how do i meet a nice guy? i've been divorced for almost 10 months and i have no idea about how or where to meet guys. any suggestions?

Aha - you ask the $64 million dollar question. And when you figure it out we ALL want to know the answer. LOL!!
The answer - here there and everywhere. It could be the coach of your kids sports team, the man who rides the train to work, someone met on match.com, a customer that comes to see you, a friend of a friend, someone you go to class with, someone you participate in sports with, on and on - these are all ways friends and people here have met their SOs.
I think I remember a post saying you just have to get out of the house and do new things and things for you. Always make sure you look presentable when you go out. Smile and enjoy meeting new people and friends.
Many of us are working on online dating right now. If you start reading the other threads here on the board you will enjoy the stories. And we would love to have you particpate and help us with our stuff, too.
WELCOME!
LOL OOOOHHH So true! LOL I need to find a good online site myself! I am just SOO scared to go down the road again! I have meet some weird ones!
Any ideas on a good one?
Heck at this point I would just love someone to talk to who is not my 7 (almost) year old daughter!! LOL
I have not been in a serious relationship her whole life and only a hand ful od dates!! I am 32 and Lordy do I need to get back out there!!
I think match.com has always been the best for me.
The thing is that yes - you will meet wierdos - but you can learn to screen them by their profile, their email and the phone. I have screened out some bad ones - but have never had to meet them in person.
One guy wanted to take me to a singles club - and I think it is a swingers type place. But I caught that on the phone and told him no way. I am always very leery of the ones who don't post a profile or pic - I assume they are married.
I have been finding of late that one good side effect of weeding out the bad ones is that I am getting much better at speaking my mind and setting boundaries and just getting more comfortable with the whole dating process. I have a good BS detector. AND I am juggling 3 for the first time.
I always used to only date one and to go from relationship to relationship. And I had no boundaries about being exclusive and being intimate. I had no clue about how a guy acts different when he just wants a hookup versus being that into me. Not anymore. I am in control! LOL!!
LOL!! Lordy knows I have had more guys that wanted the butt and not anything else!! LOL
I guess you are right though! And it would get me used to at least talking to men again! LOL
I just have a nightmare that one will hunt me down and show up here at home! LOL
I know I was going to use e-harmony once and after taking their profile test I was told that they had no matches for my type!! LOL That was an ego bundle of fun! LOL
Thanks for the hints though! I will look into it!
I'm leary of online dating too. I've create profiles on a few and browse but I'm scared to actually pay to be a full member. And with match.com, I've noticed that if you don't pay, you can't check email or send much of anything. On yahoopersonals even without membership, i can send flirts and check emails. My only problem with yahoo is that i saw my ex on there... I've heard another good one is perfectmatch.com. But again, for me, I'm afraid to put money down.... (and I don't have a computer at home)
A book that really helped me get back into dating is "How to Get a Date Worth Keeping" by Henry Cloud. The author acts like a dating coach. He starts off with dating exercises to get you back out there, and then the rest of the book is advice and encouragement. Great Stuff!!! He guarantees that you'll be dating within 6 months or your money back. And for me, I got my first date in over 2 years after reading the book for only 2 months.
You might ask, what did the trick? .... for me, it was just making eye contact and smiling at more people. That was the start!!! And changing my attitude. Dating is not about finding ONE nice guy. It's about meeting MANY potentials and unfortunating many jerks along the way. It's all good. If i'm constantly growing as a person then no experience is a waste of time. I had to start appreciating each STAGE of dating where as before I only liked the stage of full commitment and tended to rush things. I think flirting can be fun, now.
Welcome to the board mom_bridgette. This is a great place for encouragement and advice.
Loonybunny