Starting to panic. Need ideas!

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Starting to panic. Need ideas!
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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 4:15pm

I purposely have NOT been thinking too much about my 2 year dating anni with BE. Like Moon, we celebrate it this weekend. Actual date is Nov 4 but election day will not be a good day to do much lol.


Anyway, we have not made any concrete plans. He mentioned looking into a sailing thing, where a guy takes us out and we have wine and cheese and stuff. Sounds nice but unless he is trying to get the details down on the downlow I don't see it transpiring into real plans.


I'd like to do something romantic or get him something meaningful. But not big.. last year I had my expectations high that he would plan something but that fell through. But now I am starting to panic because I have not planned anything at all and I think it is unlikely that he is trying to surprise me. That would be awesome but its doubtful.


Since last year was a let down and rather hurtful, should I just wait this out keep my plans/gift/expectations at a minimum? And that way if he does something I can be pleasantly surprised? Any idea on something small and meaningful I could do anyway?

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Tue, 10-28-2008 - 5:24pm

Alright, Sister - I'm gonna tell you what you'd probably tell me if the roles were reversed (which they probably will be next year - lol!!!)

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 5:41pm

Thanks, Moon. You're right about being direct. I just don't want to come off as the "planner" when what I truly "want" is him to plan. KWIM?


Its so funny-- but so true. If he realized

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 5:47pm

Wanted to add: BE is romantic...but he so often want to be sure that what he does is what I want that he does not innitate often. He would rather I made the suggestion. What I need is a little BIRD to go tell him!!


Hmmmmm. Maybe I can tell a mutual friend of ours to ask about this weekends plans. And if he says he doesnt have any the mutual friend could say "oh Pac said this was your anniversary weekend. I bet she would LOVE that walk on the beach or if she got flowers!"


lol...does that sound too sneaky??

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 5:59pm

I don't think its too sneaky. if you can't tell him directly what you want...and trust me I understand why....then let the lil birdy drop the hint for you. It can't hurt.


Best of luck


JL

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 6:47pm

dont' know why i'm just throwing this out there....


Election Night four years ago is my freedom date. It's the day the ex was arrested for domestic violence and i finally left him for good.

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 7:11pm
Then, MISS LOONY! *I* will be DOUBLY celebrating on Election nite ... 1st for YOU & 2nd for Obama!

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 7:38pm

thanks. kinda just hit me when Pac mentioned Nov 4th. and an anniversary. Weird how anniversaries get ya to reflect.


Pac, have a great one!

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 7:49pm

Thanks! I'll celebrate your "freedom" that day too :o)


Coincidentally Election day holds another sentiment. My first kiss from Soulmate happned on election day (1988)


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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 8:46pm

Pac, I agree with Moony to find out if he does have plans or not. If he hasn't made plans, it may just be the push he needs to make some!

Letting him know that you'd really like to do something together to celebrate isn't being needy or demanding, it's just being open about your desires. Last year you were devastated, not only did he not plan anything- if I remember correctly he was inviting his drinking buddies to hang out!

The boy

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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 10:09am

I know you want to be the 'planner', but you also know that BE might not set something up because he doesn't want to 'disappoint' you by making

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