Starting to panic. Need ideas!

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Starting to panic. Need ideas!
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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 4:15pm

I purposely have NOT been thinking too much about my 2 year dating anni with BE. Like Moon, we celebrate it this weekend. Actual date is Nov 4 but election day will not be a good day to do much lol.


Anyway, we have not made any concrete plans. He mentioned looking into a sailing thing, where a guy takes us out and we have wine and cheese and stuff. Sounds nice but unless he is trying to get the details down on the downlow I don't see it transpiring into real plans.


I'd like to do something romantic or get him something meaningful. But not big.. last year I had my expectations high that he would plan something but that fell through. But now I am starting to panic because I have not planned anything at all and I think it is unlikely that he is trying to surprise me. That would be awesome but its doubtful.


Since last year was a let down and rather hurtful, should I just wait this out keep my plans/gift/expectations at a minimum? And that way if he does something I can be pleasantly surprised? Any idea on something small and meaningful I could do anyway?

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Wed, 10-29-2008 - 10:21am

Guys have it SO eash - flowers (even from the grocery store or the side of the road)


We have it easy too!!

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Wed, 10-29-2008 - 11:57am

Yeah, last year sucked. But things have changed like 200 percent for the better in that department so I shouldn't be so worried. But still!


Last night we were making dinner and I just asked.. so do we have any plans for Saturday yet? His answer...nothing in stone yet.. I said the beach, a blanket, sunset and wine would be nice and he agreed whole heartedly. He brought up the sailing again too. But we might get rain this weekend soooo all plans might have to have an indoor back up agenda. We talked about going downtown having a nice dinner then going dancing which sounds fun to me also.


So.. I suppose somethings are in the works :o)


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Registered: 08-28-2008
Wed, 10-29-2008 - 12:00pm

Great idea Moon :o)


As I wrote to Ali just now, I actually casually asked last night. So together we thought up a few things. I think my biggest fear is subsiding-- that it will be disappointing like last year. But I'm realizing that things have imporved so much since then I really REALLY doubt he will make the same "mistakes".


So I'm chillin today. I think whatever we do it will be "all good". Thanks for your help. my friend!! :o)

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 10-29-2008 - 12:39pm

Anytime, Sweetheart!


And remember what Mark always says (I'm totally going to screw up but I hope you'll get the gist anyway) 'Expectations are premeditated resentments'.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Wed, 10-29-2008 - 1:24pm

And remember what Mark always says (I'm totally going to screw up but I hope you'll get the gist anyway) 'Expectations are premeditated resentments'.


I LOVE that saying!!

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