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| Wed, 07-26-2006 - 10:28am |
Hi! I am new here - posted this ? on the On Line Dating board. Guess I will do a little intro in another post - but someone on the OLD board suggested I post this here as well


I have HPV & HSV. I (like your friend) did not have the choice in whether or not we got the virus. I just started dating a man, and before we got to sex, I took a deep breath, and told him everything. He was very impressed that I would go out on a limb like that. He took the time to research both virus and HE decided whether he wanted to take the chance of contracting one or both. He is still with me and we have sex.
Tell you friend that her partner must be told. Let HIM make the decision. And yes, she will be rejected but the ones who love you for who you are will more than make up for the heartbreaks.
Do a search on this board for herpes - we do have another poster who has had to deal with this matter.
I agree with the 2nd post - she just has to give the dating relationship a little more time to see if it looks like it is going to work and then tell him up front. I think it is prudent to postpone sex so you can see his intentions and if he is that into you and you both are going in the right direction. But you always have to be honest - that is the only way for a good relationship. And in this day and age it is probably not that big of a deal - he has probably run into that before.
This will filter out the bad ones who do not have the mindset of "I am here to stay."
Please wish her good luck. And welcome to our board - I am glad you found us!!
Tell her to be honest with the date, but only after she's been dating a little while and things are headed into more serious territory.