still, still, still wants to be friends
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| Tue, 10-26-2004 - 10:29am |
Why?? I don't understand why. The whole experience hurts me and makes me think less of people, in general. I fell in love with him and he ran. I could have kept him at arm's length, been a fun party girl, and all-round cool chick...and he would have stayed with me, but there wouldn't have been any love in the relationship. I'm guilty of cutting and running too. The guys who probably would never leave me are the ones that turn my stomach and seem so clingy to me.
I don't know why he would want to be friends. I did reply to his email. I don't remember what I said though. I was pleasant, but I'm a great deal of pain over this break-up...even with the facts staring me in the face that this guy was not good for me. I think these cycles will repeat themselves. I will fall in love and the guy will run. Or, the guy will fall in love and I'll run.

Why? In my opinion he likes you just enough to keep you around as a backup.
Don't worry about what he wants. If you WANT to continue the friendship (For my part, I wouldn't. If you're hurting, contact with him will not be helpful) then continue to respond. If you don't, then just hit DELETE the net time you get a message or email, and be done with it.
Like Bec said, he probably wants one on the backburner at all times, I have seen guys like that. I wouldn't worry too much about what he wants, just either ignnore him til he gets it or tell him to stop bothering you if you don't want the friendship.
Hugs
Tara
Sheri
And I notice what you say here:
"I'm guilty of cutting and running too."
THAT is not true!! You just wanted a relationship where you can be loved!! AND don't feel guilty for that for one minute. You have to have your needs met.
Enough time and emotion wasted on him. Do not answer any more emails or phone calls. Time to move on and find someone who will like you. I always like your posts, fivesense, and think you are a great person that will find a special person to love.
Isn't it Tara who said there is someone for everyone?? Just this morning I saw a frumpy looking woman in the grocery store with a husband who adored her. I don't mean to be shallow - but if there is someone for her then there is someone for everyone!!
Heads up - no time to look at toads who got thrown in the pond!! Onward.........
The no contact thing is actually kind of hard, even when you know the guy is a jerk. If emails back again, I'll have to ignore it because I already said everything (again).
Sheri
big hugs
Tara