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| Tue, 04-26-2005 - 1:19pm |
How do I just run into him? I do not think we have any mutual ground besides his coworker and our families.Any suggestions?
| Tue, 04-26-2005 - 1:19pm |
Ok, just a word of caution from one who's been there, done that. You're spending way too much effort and anxiety over this already.
If you do want to drop a note, etc. be prepared for him to think you're anything from "a little nuts" to "a stalker". Those are worst case scenarios. IF you want to take the traditional (I'm not saying right or wrong, just traditional)"man's" role and ask him out, then you just do it and be willing to accept rejection (the way men have for a long time) OR you forget it till you have a more "natural" opportunity.
If we were consulting the "he's just not that into you" school of thought...he would have asked when you were in contact IF he was very interested. If he didn't ask, he wasn't that interested.
Ok, just a word of caution from one who's been there, done that. You're spending way too much effort and anxiety over this already
This is VERY true.
If you run into him, great. You might have some chemistry. If not, then why not pay attention to some other men who are easily accessible? Why this one?
Yes, I agree with the other posters. I think you are spending to much energy thinking about this one guy. Let him be a pleasant mental distraction, but don't go out of your way to get together with him.
When I was between boyfriends, I decided that I wanted a man to ask me out. I didn't want to ask him out or try to work an angle. My current boyfriend pursued the relationship with me. We had a great time during our first date, but I was prepared to walk away from it if he didn't ask me out for the second date.
He called me the next day to ask me out to dinner one night that week. If he had not contacted me, I would have let it drop. You kind of have to be like. In the beginning, don't expect much and let the man do most of the work.