Stood up!

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Stood up!
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Sat, 08-16-2008 - 10:20pm

I'm so freaking upset with Medic right now, I don't even know how I'd approach him, so I've decided I'm just not speaking.


I have 1 or 2 days a month where I'm off work and I do not have my girls. You guys have heard me complain about how I covet those days and god help the man who stands me up and ruins a rare free night.


Well, this goes WAY beyond my free night. What a rare thing that Medic and I BOTH had all day Saturday off together! So crazy rare, and a week ago we were both excited about it.. then I found out my parents were going to be in town!


So, my parents agreed to watch the girls for Medic and I so we could enjoy our night out. So, not only was a stood up.. I was stood up in front of my parents! I spoke to him on the way there, and he told me to call him when I found out what time I could get out of the hotel. So I called, left a msg.. got no answer. Called an hour later and then gave up.


I'm just in shock.. this is not the man I was dating 8 days ago.. so much has changed but yet he claims nothing has changed. I'm pretty down and out tonight. :(


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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 12:21am

The more I know men, the more I love my dog.


Ha! God knows thats MY motto today!!! lol


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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 12:22am
PLEASE can I just send that quote to G Guy? lol
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Registered: 07-28-2008
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 12:33am
yes i used that line directly.. lol
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 8:09am

It sucks to be stood up by someone new but to be stood up by someone youve been dating for a while doubly sucks. I agree to have backup plans just in case. I have done this many times as RG used to cancel on a regular basis. So I learned to have backup plans for nearly everything.


It sounds like medic wants to keep you on standby for when its convenient for him. RG wanted that with me too. Wanted me on standby, seeing no one else while he took months off of seeing me to work on his dang old car and house. That isnt right. If a guy doesnt have time to maintain a relationship then they should at the least allow the woman to see other people.


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Registered: 07-28-2008
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 11:50am

Agreed.. but in his case he really is busy, and I need to either tolerate this till February or just move on. February is not all that far away.. maybe just long enough for us to take things slow and then be able to jump into more regular dating when he's finished with school ya know?


His weekly schedule is something like:


Monday: 24 hour EMT shift
Tuesday: Clinicals 12 hours
Wednesday: Off
Thursday: 24 hour EMT shift
Friday: School 9-6
Saturday: 24 hour EMT shift
Sunday: Clinicals 16 hours


All the while EMT's don't make squat for money, and he's paying child support on three children. So I understand his stress, and I also understand the desire to have a relationship even though your schedule does not really allow for it. I just need to remember to be a little understanding.


And as I typed this I just got a text that said "Wow I miss you" Awesome! lol

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 11:53am
I think that you have to really think about what you want.
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Registered: 03-25-2002
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 12:02pm

And it doesn't take long to write a quick text saying that... so there isn't much excuse in my opinion. Hope you two work it out... perhaps after he knows that you are willing to cool it until his schedule gets less crazy, then he'll relax a bit too.


OR


go out with girl friends and keep an open eye for others...

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