Stood up AGAIN!? U MUST B KIDDING!?!

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Stood up AGAIN!? U MUST B KIDDING!?!
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Mon, 07-23-2007 - 10:06am

ARGGGGGGGGGHHH!!!
He stood me up again!
And this time I am beyond furious. HE RUINED MY ENTIRE WEEKEND!
First of all, Friday night WE were supposed to go out alone. Then he asked if we could go see his friend Pat play at his band. I said cool. Then he said his friend is coming from out of town and if he and the guys girlfriend can come with. I said SURE! Then, I tell him to just go out with the guys on Friday night and I'll do my own thing. Well, he ends up going over to this guy and the girlfriends place and they all went out to see Mr.History's friend play in the band. So instead of him going out with the guys, he ends up going out with the guy and the girl. Fine, no big deal. I made my own plans. Mr. History decides to meet me later. He shows up bombed. We stayed a little while where I was and then he took me to his place. WE WERE supposed to get up early the next morning for the Winery. HE ends up tooo tired and starts whining around about his knee hurting that he's tired. I tell him to just forget it then. He said, we still have the next day and that he'll call me at night. THAT NIGHT, he calls me late and says he was really really sick and that he is sorry for what happened and he's feeling awful. I!!! LIKE AN IDIOT, feel sorry for him. Ask him if I can get him something, etc etc. He says no, I just want to go to sleep again, I'll call you tomorrow.

SUNDAY MORNING...... He doesn't call. I send him a text, if he's ok. No response. I go about my business and around 3:30 send him another text that I'm REALLY worried about him now because I haven't heard from him all day. NO answer. I decided to drive over to his place. His car is in the parking lot. I go upstairs and his room mate answers. She says: He isn't here, he left with his friends this morning!!!!!!

THEY ALL WENT TO THE LAKE!!!!!!!!!!!

I called him and left him a voice message:
Thanks for blowing me off, you could of just been a man about it and said you didn't want to be with me.

He contacts me at 9pm and says he got my message: That he was at the lake with his guy buddies and that he left his phone at home and wasn't blowing me off. That I've been SO angry these last couple of days and that it scares him.

ANGRY? NO FREAKING WAYYYYYYYY!!!!! YOU THINK?>???? Anyone wonder WHY??? I would just be the slightest FREAKING IRRITATED!!!!!!!

I wrote him back this:

Reminder!!!! After yesterday's fiasco you said we'd have today. REMEMBER NOW? I THOUGHT
YOU were maybe REALLY SICK, so I was worried. INSTEAD you stood me up AGAIN. I have been nothing but worried about you, thoughtful and respectful and you have been nothing but incosiderate and disrespectful to me and my time. This weekend was total proof of that. It shows the lack and concern you have of me as your girlfriend, let alone as a person. Blame whatever you want on me. I could give a DAMN.

*******Of course I haven't heard back from him, but I am so LIVID! THAT I could just absolutely punch the day lights out of him.*********

How DARE HE! What the HECK!!??? I have been so nice to him. I have done so many nice things for him and he has been such a jerk. A selfish, incosiderate JERK! Always about him!!! I'm just so FURIOUS!!!

One minute he apologizes and the next he's walking all over me again! What in the world!!???
And then he says I have been so angry the last couple of days and it SCARES HIM?? What am I supposed to say. HE ruined the ENTIRE weekend.

I'm so angry. I really want to give him a piece of my mind. I'm so livid that I can't seem to see anything BUT red. I wasn't even this angry with the last two people I dated.

I've been SO cool about him being with his friends and spending time with them. They are all not working or they are all doing something so he has all day with them. THAT ASS had the odasity to tell me that he is REALLY in love with me and blah blah blah blah. I am glad I never said it back and I'm glad that I told him that I didn't believe it, because I didn't think it was enough time for him to feel that way. WHAT A JOKE!!!

I'm so furious that I just HOPE he contacts me again, because then I am going to really give him a piece of my mind and FLIP OUT!

Oh and forgot to say: HE APOLOGIZED SATURDAY night for RUINING our Saturday plans. HE APOLOGIZED and did it all over again on SUNDAY!!! WHAT IS UP WITH THIS GUY???!!!!!!!!!!!




Edited 7/23/2007 10:08 am ET by myprecioustwo
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Mon, 07-23-2007 - 11:17pm

I agree on Cat should leave up her photo. I consider myself a man of substance, courtesy, caring and all those other good things that women like (hmmm.. wonder why I'm still single LOL) and only search OLD sites for women with pictures.

Mark

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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 12:07am

I don't even know you or him but I'm PISSED too!

Mark

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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 10:09am

I would be totally ticked off too. Too bad he had to ruin such a good thing. He almost seems like a Jekyl and Hyde kind of guy. Two totally different personalities. Good thing you figured it out so quickly and are able to move on.

Good luck Cat - and Love the fact that he saw you on Match!

Rose

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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 10:14am
He was a lot of fun and I don't think he was bad. I think he just had a TOTALLY different lifestyle then I do. He's socialable, always out with the friends, has a lot going on and he DEFINITELY is not child type material. He has NO clue. He wouldn't be the type to want to hang out with me and my kids. He rather be a kid and hang out with his friends. He's just still with too many guys that are all single in the same boat; not grown up. THAT is TOTALLY ok, but it's not ok for me. So I had a blast when we did do something, but the puzzle didn't fit and I pretty much knew it wasn't going to go anywhere through his early signs of flakiness.
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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 10:20am

Well you are obviously totally in tune with what you need from a relationship. At least you know that your intuition is as sharp as a knife! On the bright side - having Mr. History around helped to make the transtition from M a little smoother. Can't wait to hear about your next adventure - looking forward to seeing the new Match pics!

Rose

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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 11:18am

I find it interesting that one of the things you liked about him when you were first posting about him- is that he seemed to have so many friends. That it seemed like he knew people everywhere, from all walks of life, and was so popular and nice.

Now you know he also doesn't seem to have an ability to tell any of those friends NO when they ask to go do something- even if he already has plans with YOU. Talk about a neat trait that can backfire on him! Too much of a good thing is never a good thing.

~shrimpy

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 11:40am

You hit the nail on the head Shrimpy! Fascinating isn't it?

Rose

Rosecolouredspecs
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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 11:51am
I agree, you did hit the nail on the head! That is all it was. Spreading himself thin everywhere and not being able to tell anyone No.
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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 4:36pm

Tagging along, a little late, to join in the

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Wed, 07-25-2007 - 10:59am

There is a school of thought that one should not apologize for a couple of reasons. One, it has a blame tinge around the process which in the long run does not "make things better" for ultimately the "victim" really wants empathy. Two, as you see from Mr. History that apologizing is "cheap" meaning it does not really cost anything for the person to say and to keep him from doing it again.

The focus of empathy for the wronged person combined with the acknowledgment of the responsibility of the person's actions is more effective than saying "I'm sorry."

Just another way of looking at it.

Mark