A Strange Comment...

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Registered: 09-11-2007
A Strange Comment...
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Wed, 06-04-2008 - 11:47am

Last night, SEV, DD16, DD14 and I were heading to DD12’s softball game.

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 12:51pm

Cat, I'm sorry you're ex isn't willing to help with any of that.

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Registered: 10-09-2005
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 1:10pm

its so much harder to have FUN than to do the daily grind as we moms do every sinlge day for our kids!


ROFLMAO!!!!


I usually don't comment too much on what I do because I don't like it to sound like I resent it or that my kids don't deserve everthing I can possible do for them.

Cat
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 1:19pm

You know Moon..its no wonder...I woudl have told the ex "you know you are right...there is someone in the equation that is being neglected. With everything going on in my crazy happy life its no wonder..well with all the craziness of our successful newly blended family, the loving and nurturing man in my life, being a new drammy, ohhh my new ducks, socializing at all the family functions...I can see where your ego has been neglected. Heres the card of an HVAC guy Ive heard about...maybe you could do some actualization techniques with him and if not GO SCRATCH JACKA$$..."


To much?


M

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 1:20pm

He helps with homework once a week and acts like he deserves a medal!


Holy crap - were YOU married to my ex, too???

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 1:21pm

M - I just love you!!!

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Registered: 10-09-2005
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 1:25pm
Good one, M!
Cat
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Registered: 11-22-2006
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 1:28pm
Wow do I relate to the homework thing...but....
First of all Moon- - all of the other gals here are right - dont let his words mean a thing to you unless you think your girls are giving credence to them at all. If they feel loved and cared for, that is truly all that matters.
I texted my ex last week and said he needed to help my DS with his math homework and take him to the library ot get out two books for a report. I never sent texts like this so I wondered if he would do it. They did one out of eight pages of math and did come home ( 45 minutes late though) with two books. Its like they cant be productive or multitask at all - he just has never had to figure out how to manage his son and get anything done other than have fun and eat junk food. I am positive I could have done twice that amount with him and found a healthy dinner to boot. He even had the nerve to call me as he was sending him back up my stairs to tell me that he thought DS needed more help with his math because it was very frustrating. The kid got an A in math all year but this was new stuff - new concepts that he needed help getting. We must do an hour and a half of supervised homework time a day over here and we oversee every report and project. It is sometimes like a part time job to keep his brilliant but scattered little brain on track.
Sometimes I wonder whether he expects a parade or a special sash for doing one page of homework - it really made me mad last week.
Sorry to vent but I totally related to that one!!
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Registered: 09-01-2006
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 1:30pm

Cat - I can Sooooo relate to what you are saying.

Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 1:33pm

...I can see where your ego has been neglected


ROFL!!! Good one!

~Pacific~
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 06-04-2008 - 2:35pm

OMG. I would want to clobber him.

Based on everything you have said - I would let it go and ignore it. Your exh has left so much to be desired as a husband, dad and as a person. I think he is straining under the load of actually having to do something and not realizing what it takes to be a mom with 3 kids and their school and activities much less a single mom. You are busy working and doing all you can with your kids, Moon. You are a good mom - it shines in all your stories. And quite frankly, we could all use about 24 more hours in each of our days.

Your kids are good kids, they are happy, they are busy. 'nuff said.