Stretch marks and other wonderful things

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Registered: 12-30-2005
Stretch marks and other wonderful things
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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 8:49am

I'm not sure about how you women feel about your bodies. I try to feel proud of my stretch marks because they are of course reminders of my beautiful boys!!


But being recently single, I wonder how the men feel about seeing them. It wasn't an issue with the ex-hubby, of course he was used to them..but now i find I am hiding, and can't really seem I can relax with some of my body parts showing, without being a little embarrassed and wondering what he "really" thinks if he sees them...?


Anyone else think about this, or am I just paranoid???

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 9:36am
The right guy for you will have made up his mind that he is attracted to you both inside and out before he ever sees your stretch marks. By the time he sees them he won't even notice - or if he does he won't care. He'll just be excited that you are naked!
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Registered: 11-03-2003
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 10:36am

If he has been married to a Mom before, he'll take it in stride as 'normal'.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 10:36am
Girl......don't worry about them!!!
 
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 10:52pm

MY standard advice on this one? By the time a guy WANTS you naked, he already has a GOOD idea of what you will look like underneath.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sat, 09-29-2007 - 12:10am

You're not paranoid- you're normal.


Everyone is self-conscious, even the skinny super model types!


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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 10:49am

"Otherwise, he probably won't notice in the passion of the moment. Then afterwards, he won't care. :-)"

BRAVO!! I find this to be very true!!!!

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Registered: 08-30-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 2:45pm

Hello! Im new writting to this board, but I ve been reading all message boards for a long long time!


I want to thank you for asking this question, because Ive always had this same concern:


Mommy body+New man= ?


I am in my late 20's and a mommy to a 5 y/o and have stretch marks, and yes, some other things I don't like about my body..jeje! And my issue is that I met a wonderful man...But he has "A BODY", plus he is in the military, so you can imagine...Im here thinking, he is so athletic and im sooooooo..you know: Mommy body.


I need help, he says that he wants to be with me and I will love to be with him, but Im shy plus embarassed about my body...what do you think he will say?

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 10-02-2007 - 3:06pm

ha-p-mom...


Just what Alison said, I agree and would take that advice. What guys find really sexy is for a woman to be confidant in her own skin..regardless of the condition of it! When you're feeling good about your own body and all of it's imperfections (lord knows I have many) guys feel good about your body, too.. Sex is such a MENTAL thing, really.


I feel blessed. I have been coming down on my guy lately on this board, full of doubts ets but this subject makes me really apprectiate him for this: He loves my body even though I could point out 100 flaws. He compliments me on the things that he loves and his words make ME feel great being next to him, even with my stretch marks and lil' extra goin on in the tummy. I used to have a nice chest, you know, they were "perky" in my 20s. After giving birth they are, well, more womanly? Blue Eyes loves them and I am learning to love my body again.

~Pacific~
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Registered: 08-30-2007
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 11:45am

Thank you so very much pacific, you made me feel a lot better, Ill take the advice and just enjoy life...have a great day today!

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 1:02pm

I hope you have a great day as well!


Wishing you great times with Military Guy...looking forward to hearing from you again, updates! :o)


~Pacific~

~Pacific~