stumbled upon something

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Registered: 09-25-2004
stumbled upon something
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 3:34pm

eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeekkk


You wont believe what I stumbled upon..


I was using Bikers laptop in which his e-mails are always logged into.. I was trying to close some open windows and I caught a glimpse of his inbox that said "shipment confirmation from XXX(the jewelery)...looks like it was yesterday or so.. My heart started beating and I closed the window..


I know all of his email passwords so I could very ell open and see again.. But I never open his emails unless he tells me to check something when he is travelling or something like that (like for instance,his mom dont know how to do -reply all- to an e-mail..lol.. so she would reply to him sometimes and he will tell me there was an email from mother (yeah he calls her "mother" ..not mom..lol) i can forward or you can just check my mail.. SO I check..


But this was surprise.. Actually I feel kind of tensed now.


Why do I feel like my single life is coming to an end.. too fast..lol. I dont know when he will get the ring o when he plans to propose..


We had a not so good week following the last "proposal bluff"..lol.. I could not let go and things added up.. But we have calmed down and have been working on someinor things - For instance he doesnt like to watch mch TV at all.. but I love to sit and watch a bit of TV together once ina

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 4:21pm

I know it is hard but just sit on the information a bit--just in case, LOL!!

April

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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 5:08pm

Yes, in some ways it is not sure if it is the ring..but it is possible IT IS..
These days he is planning a lot of outings and activities..like going to independent movies, going to new cafes and many other (remember earlier I had complain that he is not planning things..).
Good thing is that now I dont really care.. I am just enjoying the time together..I have a time line in my mind after which I wont continue staying in his place. My apartment lease is till July- so I will enjoty my time with him till then and if nothing happens by then, then I can rethink everything.

We are planning to go canoeing this weekend..It should be really exciting..
I want to make up for that bad week we had following that one weekend trip that eh planned..Only now I realise that since then he has been contantly planning things to do together. That was just a beginning. I think he is trying to make up first for my old complain that he doesnt "plan" romantic activities together.. although we have done many things together before, I was the one who planned most stuff or in other words started talking about it first..He always follows through and mostly pays for all of them 80% of teh time..He is chivalerous that way.

I like that he considers my wishes and needs and even complaints seriously and tries his best to change.. Even if he doesnt change 100% just the fact that he is trying is enough for me. Moreover it is really not a big deal..I had almost resigned to agree that if we are together, I will be the one to plan these kind of stuff like vaccations..

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 5:52pm

How exciting.....patience.....you know if you feel the need to share "that you saw/know" come here...we'll listen...lol....


WOOHOO if this is the right thing for you both!

~~Tiny


You said you couldn't stand to see my heart broken...so when you broke it, did you close your eyes?

~Karen
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 10:04pm

Yes, now I have plenty of patience.. Even before I was not in that hurry. Only problem was that he suddenly planned for a vaccation and the week before implied something about getting engaged soon and I totally was expecting something..lol.After that incident we decided that both of us wont even talk about ring.. If we had to say anything the code for ring would be "you know what".


We are in a much better place now.. lots of love and really enjoying living together after all the initial adjustment phase..


In fact something funny happened this evening.. we came back from grocery, cooked , ate, and he had a little headache . So I was massaging his head and we were chatting and I was like "I am so excited about tomorrow". He thought a bit and said hesitatingly.."I just wanted to say that I dont have "you know what" with me and we wont be getting engaged tomorrow..I didnt want you to expect anything because we are going out to do something special.."...I laughed so much about it and this was a good time to tell him that in fact I am not in any hurry to get engaged and we should just relax for a while..In fact he said wont get engaged on a weekend ever ..lol.