Summer Roll Call and poll for all
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Summer Roll Call and poll for all
| Tue, 06-27-2006 - 10:27am |
Hi to all:
Now that summer is here and we have some new faces, it is time to do a roll call. Tell us:
- your age, kids ages, custody arrangements - do you have an exh or FOB that sees your child regularly or are you a 24/7 mom?
- are you dating/not dating? If you are an alumni tell us how you are doing with your SO or spouse!!
- what are you doing socially for YOU? By socially, I mean what are you doing to get away from your kids and do an activity either to meet more people or just for your own sanity and interest?
Hope to hear from everyone - calling all lurkers, regulars, alumni......

Just checking in former...poster
I am 34 and have twin boys who will be 11 on Sunday July 2nd...I am 24/7 mom...ex has disappeared in the last 6 months - no child support (I have mixed feelings about that)
I am engaged to be married May 25th 2007 to my fiance whom I have been with for over 3 years in Maui, HI. We moved in together a year ago. he proposed September of 2005.
Socially we enjoy motorcyle rides with our LARGE group of friends and we even get together in the winters for events or invite them over for BBQ's drinks whatever. There is always something going on with that group and its a lot of fun. Other than that Im chasing the boys in baseball, fiances daughter is in softball and working full time so not much leasure time... few hours in the evening and Jerry and I usually are crashed on the couch either watching a great movie or Im reading a good book and he is working on some gadget.
Its my life and I love it !
- your age, kids ages, custody arrangements - do you have an exh or FOB that sees your child regularly or are you a 24/7 mom?
I'm Kira (24) with DS Caleb (4, Almost 5). I am a full time, 24/7 mom. My ex has signed over his rights, and does not see my son at all.
- are you dating/not dating? If you are an alumni tell us how you are doing with your SO or spouse!!
Seeing someone exclusively for about four months now, and so far it's going pretty well.
- what are you doing socially for YOU? By socially, I mean what are you doing to get away from your kids and do an activity either to meet more people or just for your own sanity and interest?
I am definitely a mom who makes sure I get me time. I get my hair done every two months, Go to lunch with a friend at least once every other week while DS is in school (or daycare over the summer), have a standing Saturday night Date Night with BF, and my mother and I go and get pedicures and have lunch at least onec a month. I'm also a full time student. I know it's not really socially because I am working toward a degree, but I enjoy it and have fun with it..
Kira
Shrimpy (41)- Loving being in my 40's!!!! It ROCKS! Because I can be who I am and it doesn't matter what others think. lol I just wish I'd have come to grips with myself MUCH sooner. But better now than never. ;) I can be silly and get away with it (because it's good to stay young-at-heart). I can be responsible and I'm now old enough that no one thinks I'm being a fuddy-duddy because of it (as it might've been when I was in my 20's with partying friends). I can be both and it's all accepted.
Kids- 2 boys, 8 & 6. My 8-yr old has cerebral palsy so most of the time it's like I have a 5yr old and 6-yr old. Custody arrangements- I'm a 24/7 mom about 95% of the time. My ex lives 8 hrs' drive away, so he might see the kids once a month or every other month for just one weekend. For the summer, he's allowed 40 days, but has yet to keep them for more than one week. THIS summer though- he might actually keep them for almost one month (coming up)!!! It'll be a new world's record for him if he lasts that long! lol But we have joint custody, with me being the primary caretaker. Ex got remarried late last year. We do get child support, but he's about 2 months behind currently. His payments are consistent/inconsistent but so far he hasn't let them get more than a couple of months behind at a time- so it works okay. I also have a job, but it's part-time and I work only during the school year (college) so it's great that I can be off all summer while the kids are off, too! (YAY FOR THAT!!!!!)
Are you dating/not dating? I am dating my Hiker treasure. We met online last August and have been dating since. He's 50, with 4 kids (three grown dds and one ds who is 13). He was married for almost 20 yrs before, divorced for 6. I was married for almost 7 yrs, divorced for 4 yrs. We're in no rush to run for the altar, but we are enjoying our relationship and letting things just grow and develop as it grows. Our lives are linked, but not totally intertwined or fully involved, and right now that is just enough for us. :-)
What are you doing socially for YOU? By socially, I mean what are you doing to get away from your kids and do an activity either to meet more people or just for your own sanity and interest? I am SO very thankful that I have my Mom nearby so she can babysit if/when I have things going on. ON a sad note though- my Mom has been battling colon cancer for the past 8 yrs or so. The only good thing that's come of that is that my family is much closer and we've learned to just live our moments to the fullest because you just never know about the future. He!!- you never know even if you DON'T have cancer. So just live it up anyway! ;-)
Things I do for my sanity- I go out with Hiker, I go to lunch with my best friend, I do things for the city library. I go to church. I hang out with my family for dinners. I love going on road trips (either alone or with family). I go geocaching with my brother/Hiker/my kids/myself whenever I get the chance. For my own relaxation, I do cross-stitch (so many projects, so little time), read (so many books, so little time), sudoku puzzles (I'm so addicted!), and "play" on the internet in the blog-world. I am currently upgrading my fitness level with a new (and hard) workout program and it's making me feel GREAT! I'm loving the stronger feeling I get and it's been wonderful for my mental health too. I've joined the local cycling club (but haven't done anything with them yet) and keeping an eye out for easy activities I can jump in on (I'm not a long-distance rider by no means, at this point). I seek out fun walks/runs for charity events (when they occur, and when I can).
I tell ya, the 40's have been great so far. I'm living more now than I ever have. Not just living for me, but living for others too- and that's the best way to go. :-)
~shrimpy, who is a bit stuck at home today with laundry duties and electricians in her house this morning
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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I am 42 and have an almost 15 y/o son and a 10 y/o daughter. I have full custody of my son and his Dad has almost nothing to do with him. I have joint custody of my daughter and have her every Wednesday, every other weekend and a month in the summer. (Yes, they have the same father and I know it is an unusual arrangement)
I am happy to report that after a very long time I have finally met somebody that is decent and that I care for very much. We have been together for 3 months and I am very happy about how things are progressing!
I do make time for myself. I have some very good friends that I get together with regularly. I am an active member at my church. I love to travel when I have the time and money. I have been lucky enough to have been to Vegas, France and on a carribbean cruise since I divorced.
Stephanie
Edited 6/27/2006 3:18 pm ET by texas_mom1991
- your age, kids ages, custody arrangements - do you have an exh or FOB that sees your child regularly or are you a 24/7 mom?
I'm Moody, 25, and my kids are Princess Spasticka (5), and Android (7). DS sees his father every other weekend and for about an extra week in the summer. We have a fairly informal agreement beyond the court order, and we get along well enough- by that I mean we both want whatever's best for DS, and that's both parents in his life. DD has no contact with my ex-husband, who also pays no child support, so it all works out, sort of, in the wash.
- are you dating/not dating? If you are an alumni tell us how you are doing with your SO or spouse!!
Right now I'm dating casually for the first time ever. I've been doing this for about 3 months or so, and it's really been a lot of fun. I've met a lot of fun, new people, but mostly I'm looking to have fun and enjoy myself. it's much more about me than about men at this point in my life.
- what are you doing socially for YOU? By socially, I mean what are you doing to get away from your kids and do an activity either to meet more people or just for your own sanity and interest?
I have an amazing group of friends, most of whom have children, so we tend to hang out a lot. A few of them also play in a band, and I'm involved in that on a couple of different levels. I read a lot, play my sax (although not as much as I should), and garden when I have time, which lately hasn't been very often.
Moody- who has to watch the weather channel now to see if the rain will ever stop
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I hope this doesn't get too confusing :)
I'm Jennie and I have a dd who will be 6 in a week.
- your age, kids ages, custody arrangements - do you have an exh or FOB that sees your child regularly or are you a 24/7 mom?
Hi, I am Clemmy, aged 37, with DS 8 and DD 6. I have an exh who sees the little ones every two weeks for a long weekend, and occasionally to help me out if I need it.
- are you dating/not dating? If you are an alumni tell us how you are doing with your SO or spouse!!
I am dating Monkey, and we have been together for 10 months. We're having a bit of a rocky patch right now, but have planned to get together tomorrow night, and I am confident we will work things out.
- what are you doing socially for YOU? By socially, I mean what are you doing to get away from your kids and do an activity either to meet more people or just for your own sanity and interest?
I joined a salsa class a few months ago with Monkey and we have a lesson every week. We really enjoy it and it's good exercise too. That aside, we have a large circle of friends, both his and mine, who have become "our" friends and on the weekends when the kiddies are with their dad, we meet up and socialise - BBQs or dinners or, at the moment, watching the soccer world cup. It's fun!
I'm Lynette, I'm 22, I know pretty young. I have 3 kids, Angelina- 4 1/2, Karyana - 3 and James Wyatt - 1. We have no court order for child support or custody arrangements. My X doesn't do visitation. He is MIL ( missing in life ) His mother ( Nana ) gets my children every Wednesday and every other weekend. We set this up ourselves because she does love my children, although she is a pathological liar about little things, nothing big. Nothing detrimental to my children. Through the state I am the custodial parent becasue I have insurance on them as well as I have filed child support enforcement on my X. He doesn't seem to care although he is about 3 months behind and they will catch up,hopefully soon.
I am talking to a guy, we aren't dating. He's pretty much my venting buddy. He knew my X before we split up and I didn't meet him until after the fact. I'm afraid he may like my X although every time his name gets brought up by friends or whatever he shoots a glance towards me and studies me to see what I'll say or my reaction. So we are just talking. I do have a bunch of guys that would like ot have me now ( and I mean just for the night ) but they are all friends for almost 10 years half of them and that wont happen, because i dont sleep around. I just got pregnant at 16 and started a family, and thought I was happy until close to 8 months ago. I'm in a pretty rock bottom spot but I think I am happier now than I have been in 5 1/2 years.
On the weekends I spend from Fri. evening until Sun. afternoon, at a mutual friends house. This mutual friend use to be my X's boss, but he screwed them over the same time we split and they've become more like family. Without them, I'd be worse off. We have movie nights, we buy movies on Tuesday ( new releases come out ) and watch them that weekend. Spending the weekend kinda gives my parents a break and relieves me from them as well. We go shopping on the weekends. They are older than me, which she can use her life experience and relate it towards me and it helps a lot.Hope to get to know all of y'all better and get some personal insight.