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| Fri, 06-16-2006 - 10:51am |
It's not "free" time. I always think I'm going to get tons done when my son is away on summer visitation. But, I never do. I feel like I'm in a holding pattern until he gets back. It doesn't help that he doesn't want to go either. I envy people whose kids look forward to visits with their fathers. It seems like those moms would enjoy some guilt-free downtime.

Stephanie
Why does your DS have anxiety about going? Is it because he doesn't like the disruption to his routine? Or because he has real concerns and dislikes about what happens there?
Does he see his dad on a regular basis?
We have had some issues but I have really encouraged DS to work through these things and communicate his feelings. And that has helped. One of the biggest deals for us is that he has older cousins who basically don't listen to what he wants or doesn't want. But the last time he got good about speaking his mind and refusing to do what he doesn't like. I feel this has been a big step to get him to learn to handle people and difficult situations.
I do enjoy the break - I think we all need it - just to be able to do something without having to take a kid who doesn't want to go or to find a babysitter.
Then that is very serious and very hard on you. No wonder you are stressed and cannot get anything done.
Is there a way that you can give your exh a list of positive things for them to do together so DS has a better time? I would definitely try to head that one off at the pass and help him go in the right direction.
Sorry you and DS have to go through this.
Tricia,
I understand your frustration, it doesn't help when they do the opposite of what is good for their child.
Fivesense,
You can e-mail thru my profile. My 15 yr old has Aspergers, I too deal with family members who from the start wouldn't accept the wonderfulness. I might be able to give you some ideas for self help your DS could use in some situations.
Jer-16 yrs of single parenthood this past weekend.