Sunday will be 7 months!!!

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Sunday will be 7 months!!!
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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 10:54pm

With my honey! And I'm still as smitten as the day we met! Things have been going really well, we've been living together quite comfortably since Jan 1. He is just an awesome guy, very loving and respectful, loves when I call him honey bunny in public LOL.

I just am SOOO happy, he's been so good to both my son and I. He's a great role model, which my son needs since his dad is A) not a good one and B) not close to us, he's over 12 hours away. Ds even asked him the other day if he could call him "stepdad", to which he said yes, if that's what ds wanted. He said to me that that made him feel good.

This man is everything I ever wanted in my life, I just wish I could have met him years ago, you know? Alas, if I had not been with my son's father I wouldn't have learned so many things about myself and had such a great kid. That's a blessing, right??

We have talked about marriage, which is something that we both want. And kids in a few years, not right away, I'm only 28 now and I still have a few years left in me for bearing fruit. He is just so cute, for example, we're in the shower and he'll write our initials in a heart on the window. I just love sappy stuff, and so does he LOL!

I just can't believe it's already been 7 months.

Time flies when you're in love...

Alison

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Sat, 03-19-2005 - 10:04am

Continue to enjoy it...there is nothing as beautiful as being in love.

Amy

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Sun, 03-20-2005 - 2:12pm

Aw darlin! I'm so happy for you! Way to go! I love your sappy stories and hope to hear many many more! I think it's really awesome that your son and him are getting along so wonderfully! I think it's so important when you have a man that can be such a wonderful role model as a step parent. Soon he'll go from saying "step dad" to "dad".

I think it's great when we hear such great love stories like these after the trialing times that are experienced as a single mom alone. We all feel good, accepting and content with ourselves to be alone, but it reminds us about the pot of gold that each of us wants, a man that will "buy", not "rent" in the relationship.

Big big big hugs to you alison and thanks for sharing.

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Sun, 03-20-2005 - 9:16pm

Cat,

Thanks. I really am happy. The three of us went out for a nice dinner and stuffed ourselves. Now we're all lounging and feeling sickly full LOL.

I am amazed at how easy this relationship has been, in comparison with my son's dad. I was 19 when I met him and hadn't really been serious with anyone before. Had more FWB through high school than boyfriends, you know? And then after 5 years with ds' dad I ended things and never got serious with anyone until this one. I had a few dates, met a bunch of guys, but I really wasn't into FWB or just a quick fling. So after 2.5 years of singledom I met this guy and things just went full blown and fast.

He's just so good to me that I want to cry, you know?

Alison

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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 3:48am

This is wonderful news, Alison, and the way it should be for us all.

How did you meet him?

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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 2:06pm

Glad it's still going so well with you all!
Your stories are awfully sweet!
Keep doing what you're doing cuz obviously it's working for ya!

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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 2:26pm

I am so pleased for you that it's all going so well!


I would caution you on allowing your ds to call him stepdad, as things are pretty unsettled for that. I know my DS wanted to call me now husband that, and he said "ok" but I personally stepped in and said "uh huh. Once you've made the official commitment and you are in that position in my son's life, that'd be great. But I don't think it's wise just yet" I mean, after all, I didn't call my then boyfriend "husband" to others, even though I wanted one and thought he would make a great one.


Ok, that's my two cents. I just wonder about the wisdom of that. But if it's working for you guys, then I am glad for you.


You're so FUNNY that you've got a few years left to "bear fruit" LOL!!! I am thrilled for you that you're talking marriage. How soon do you think that'd happen?

Becky

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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 8:36pm

To answer a few questions...

I met him at his work, he works retail at a computer store. I went in there with my mother in like May so she could ask about her computer and I saw him and remember thinking he was cute, but figured he had a girlfriend. Didn't really think about him again until mid Aug when we went by there again so she could ask about whether to upgrade or not. He was there again and the two of us got really chatty, and I slipped in something about "my son" and he didn't even bat an eyelash at it, so I was impressed for that. I then saw him a few days later when I went in with a male coworker who needed something, and he said later that he had been disappointed thinking that I was there with my boyfriend- but I then slipped something into the conversation to say "coworker" and he picked up on that. LOL

So then he emailed my coworker what my name was and I took that to mean he was interested, so I asked him to join us when we all went out that Fri night, and we've been inseperable since.

You know he remembers the first time I touched him when we talked?

Becky, as for your comment about "stepdad", ds asked him, but I have yet to hear him call him that, I think it was just for what to call him when referring to db to others. Who knows?

As for marriage and possibly other kids, within two years for marriage for sure- being married, not just engaged. But for kids, I want to wait at least two more years before going down that road, so it's more my decision on that one. And we've talked about the ceremony and stuff, we both want something really small and not extravagent. We don't want or feel the need to spend thousands and thousands of dollars to get married, neither are we the type that try to impress others- I've been to a couple of weddings like that. Just having close friends and family, getting married outside (weather permitting) and then having like a big bar-b-q in the backyard would be ideal. Like I said, nothing fancy, and I'd rather have that money to put down on a house and have a week honeymoon somewhere nice.

A girl I worked with was telling me that her wedding was cheap, but when I asked, she said they spent total $10,000!!! To me that is NOT cheap at all, I'm thinking, ok THAT amount is good towards a HOUSE!!!

Alison

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Tue, 03-22-2005 - 5:25am
Amen!! I think we should all go out and buy a new computer!!
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Tue, 03-22-2005 - 10:07am

A girl I worked with was telling me that her wedding was cheap, but when I asked, she said they spent total $10,000!!! To me that is NOT cheap at all, I'm thinking, ok THAT amount is good towards a HOUSE!!!...


NO KIDDING!!! We are scrambling right now to get enough to put toward a house purchase. If I'd spent that on a wedding, I'd be kicking myself hard!


We had a lovely wedding. It was at a local mountain lodge. I did have a wedding gown. Got it at David's during one of their sales and found a perfect one for me....for $99.00. Can't beat it. My DH and son rented tux's. The rest of the wedding party was much more casual.


I think the wedding might've cost a total of 1000.00. And that included renting the entire lodge all night. We had 50 people. And a cake and punch (and some wine) reception. That was it. Family stayed the night in the lodge and we all stayed up late enjoying the fire and the hot tub and played cards together (yep, that's what we love to do!)


I wouldn't change a thing, unless it was to add a nice honeymoon. We couldn't afford it. We were going to do it this summmer. And then I got pregnant. LOL!

Becky

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Tue, 03-22-2005 - 1:08pm

wow! I have an ex sis in law who spent 12,000 on her wedding extravaganza. I don't know how they DO it!


I think even considering inflation I have you beat beck...$250...a friend made my dress, and I made my own flower arrangements.

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