For T-Bone: Let's help him to understand

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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 4:48pm

women and body language:

Brian mentioned that he still hasn't figured out womens body language and what it means, you can read it in his post about his first date this weekend, soooo, I thought it would be great to help him along and give some insight.....

What are some of the things you do, to show your interested in a guy and what are some of the the signs that show your really ticked off or just sooooooo NOT interested...

I gotta go to bed, but I'm looking forward to some reading tomorrow. I think this could get funny again!

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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 5:30pm

Ok, this is going to sound really bad. If it's not on the list of what NOT to do on a first date, it should be added to the list. On my first date with my bf I got lost trying to find the restaurant. We were on the cell phone for a while with him trying to help me find out where I was and where I needed to be (I had to stop twice to ask for directions). He wasn't that familiar with the area either since we had picked a place about 1/2 way between where we each lived (hint, on the first date *one* of you should be familiar with the area). We were on the cell phone and chatting and joking and I was laughing my a$$ off at what an idiot I was for turning off the highway too soon and getting so completely lost (it should have been very easy to get there). I was in such a great mood and I had had no expectations for the date - he looked way too cute for me and sounded way too athletic for me, and I assumed that we would not be a good match but I was dating to have fun and meet people so gosh darn it that is what I was going to do. Plus it was late because he had his son and that weekend and we were meeting after his son's bedtime. I finally get there and I walk up to him and he was MUCH cuter than his picture and he looked so nice and INTELLIGENT and he was just beautiful. I walked up to him and stood on the curb (he was on the ground, he's a foot taller than me) and we just leaned in and started kissing (he is an awesome kisser)! How's that for positive body language?

As far as helping Brian, I know I had some dates where I gave positive body language (listening, looking in the other persons eyes, leaning forward) and then later decided I wasn't interested. Even if I wasn't interested, I would probably still be talking and seeming interested just to get through the date. So sometimes it can be hard to know what to think from body language.




Edited 3/10/2005 5:52 pm ET ET by firstamendment

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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 5:56pm

Honey it's been so long since I've had to give "body language" to let a guy know I was interested, I can't even remember. ;)

And do you consciously do these things or do they just happen in spite of yourself? I kind of think they are spontaneous and you don't really think about them. I don't remember ever thinking "Well I like this guy so I'm going to x,y,z" as far as sending a signal.

I like first's story, very funny. But let's face it, if you start making out with the guy/girl right away, it's not so much a signal as a pretty clear statement that you like the person. They don't really have to figure that one out, do they?

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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 6:10pm
You are right, and there are so many things wrong with making out on a first date that I don't even need to list them :)

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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 6:59pm

"What are some of the things you do, to show your interested in a guy and what are some of the the signs that show your really ticked off or just sooooooo NOT interested..."

I'm possibly the VERY worst person to answer this.

I kissed TT first, on our third date. He told me that he had been trying to figure out for 3 nights whether or not I was interested in. So either he can't read my body language, or I'm sending mixed signals! LOL

Seriously - I am a very affectionate, very touchy feely person. With everyone. Male or female. I lean in to listen - whether male or female, whether I'm interested in a person romantically or simply interested in what they are saying. I touch peoples' shoulders and hands. I smile ALOT. I CONSTANTLY screw around with my hair. I hug people. I kiss people on the cheek. I laugh alot. Loudly.

The ONLY thing that is safe to assume - if I don't touch you - I don't like you. Wait - it could also be if I don't touch you I REALLY LIKE YOU!

As I said - I'm the WORST person to answer this! LOL!

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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 10:25pm

What are some of the things you do, to show your interested in a guy and what are some of the the signs that show your really ticked off or just sooooooo NOT interested..."

Allright,this is advice I got before my first date after my husband and I separated. And I'm not saying whether I took it or not, but...

My friend said "If you like him and think he's relationship material, then DON'T sleep with him no matter what. But, if you like him but don't think he's relationship material, then go ahead and have sex, because you never know when your next chance will be."

So I guess my answer is...not having sex on the first date :)

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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 12:55am
How funny! We are soooooooooo alike! I do the same thing if I like someone more or not. However, if I suddenly don't like someone, I won't ask anything about them and keep my answers very short. My eyes well tell you about what I am thinking. Even though I ALWAYS look intensely at the person I'M talking to, if I don't like you, I throw daggers with you, if I like you I have a normal intense look, but if REALLY like you, then I've been told I have these bedroom eyes on me. LOL. I know what I do, but I can't describe it, I'd have to show it. Think of it as subtle eyelash fluttering! LOL.
One thing I really noticed that I will do, but it didn't occur to me that I always do that until much later, when I am really into someone, I will grab their upper arm with both hands, squeeze it briefly and put my head on their shoulder. It takes about 2 seconds, so if no one caught that, then they are blind.
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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 7:34am
This is hilarious!! Very cute!!
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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 7:43am

If I smile a lot, have great eye to eye contact that sparkles, and enjoy my evening that is good.

If I say I am tired and have to go and don't look like I am having fun, that is bad.

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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 11:26am

Hi there
I hope you didn't think I was critizing you for that or even commenting on it. I would be a total hypocrite if I did. I was only saying that I didn't think that would necessarily be "body language". I just want to make sure you didn't take it another way.

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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 11:46am
I agree with you - I just called it 'positive body language' to be humorous. I didn't feel criticized :)

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