Talked with Irish today...

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Talked with Irish today...
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Fri, 12-19-2008 - 1:01pm

It was a good talk I guess. Everything he told me was basically what I already knew. Him needing to figure himself out and all. I was like well yah I knew that and told you that from the very beginning. However I chose to run into the burning wreck while throwing gasoline on myself all for the hopes of a positive outcome. He told me to stop beating myself up.. whatever.


He asked me what went wrong? I'm thinking to myself ummm you slept with your ex? LOL. But I think he meant like to lead him to that happening. I told him that nothing went wrong, timing is everything and he and I unfortunatly are just not going to happen at this time, and quite possibly never after what happened.


I posted about the family shot and two dieing from the psycho boyfriend that happened this past weekend. He said he saw it on the news and read it in the paper and wanted to call me so badly. I work in the only level 1 trauma unit.. he knows that all that stuff comes to me. I was like yah well I wish I would of had you to talk to.


Blah.. I'm over the anger now I'm just sad again. Back in my funk of I'm so awesome but I'm just not THAT awesome. And no you don't need to pep talk me lol I've been through this funk before and I'll get out of it just like I always do.


One thing that really bothered me...


In regards to us getting hot and heavy a few times he said that was all very bad because it made him think of me in only a sexual way. I was like wait a second.. we talked all the time, got along great, joked around all the time about how great minds think alike, had to say jinx constantly, had nights where we just played scrabble and watched movies and layed there talking about everything. I was like wow, I'm actually very offended by that. All those great moments and chemistry yet you can't think of me in that way? He's like oh yes I think of you that way.. you've been nothing less than amazing. I'm like ok duh.. am I missing something here? I told him that when I like someone I enjoy spending time with them, doing fun things with them, and then even enjoy them in a sexual nature. I guess my idea of a relationship is different than yours. What the heck?! That whole convo just confused the hell out of me and I'm very miffed about it.


He did tell me that he needed time to "find" himself.. to bad once he finds himself he sure as hell will have a hard time finding "me".




Edited 12/19/2008 1:02 pm ET by trauma_junkie

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Fri, 12-19-2008 - 1:33pm

In regards to us getting hot and heavy a few times he said that was all very bad because it made him think of me in only a sexual way.


Well that is his issue. And man on man does that guy have ISSUES. What, did

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Sat, 12-20-2008 - 7:49pm

to bad once he finds himself he sure as hell will have a hard time finding "me"

Ain't that the truth? That's why when they said they need to find themselves I used to say "take you time because I won't be waiting for you".

I'm sorry you are going thru all this but it sound like you've got a handle on it. Hang in there.

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Sun, 12-21-2008 - 3:04pm

He did tell me that he needed time to "find" himself.. to bad once he finds himself he sure as hell will have a hard time finding "me".

After all he put you through I would hope he would go do something to himself that is a four letter word starting with "f" (not find).

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Tue, 12-23-2008 - 12:46pm

Wow, just wow. Talked to him again last night.. didn't mean to actually. He hopped on yahoo and we were talking about xmas and his bday and we just fell back into the talking about us thing. Note.. this is only the second conversation we've had since the day I hung up on him.


Anyway...


I was told that obviously there are issues with me or he would have never slept with his ex. He can't figure out what they were. He said I'm amazing and he has an insane attraction to me, loves spending time with me, and misses me so much. But since he slept with his ex that means I have issues that he needs to figure out. WTH? Oh, and once again he repeats that this insane attraction to me is a bad thing.


He made a comment about "do you think thats when we got on the wrong track?" I said what wrong track? I was on a great track but you wouldn't hop on for the ride. You're to busy sitting there analyzing and being scared $hitless to take a shot. Yah.. that pretty much ended the convo right there.


I'm finally seeing that this guy really is whacked in the head.

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Tue, 12-23-2008 - 12:53pm
did he really say YOU have issues???

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Tue, 12-23-2008 - 1:14pm

Oh yes, and once he figures them out he's going to make a list and email them to me so it can help me in my future relationships since I can't seem to make any of them work.


What a guy!


But yet he still has no issues.. but stands firm that there must be some!

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Tue, 12-23-2008 - 1:20pm

again WTF - I hope you told him not to bother sending his list until he has had a year of no dating and therapy - maybe then you will accept his list............ugh.

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Tue, 12-23-2008 - 1:36pm

I was told that obviously there are issues with me or he would have never slept with his ex.


HUH???

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Registered: 10-09-2005
Tue, 12-23-2008 - 5:14pm

He slept with his ex and YOU have issues?!?!?

Cat
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Tue, 12-23-2008 - 6:01pm

What everyone else said:

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