Wow Rebeccah - he is really in agony over the idea of you dating. And this sounds scary to me. I think you should work by yourself with the doc to get a plan. And you need to talk to your attorney, too, to voice your concerns - because this is new and he is clearly over the top. I don't think I would send Avery over there after watching what he said on the moped and driving like that - I wonder if you can call the police so this is documented?
BTW - this post should be in the bottom section because the top section is just for dating and relationships now - the bottom section is for ex talk and all the other stuff. I am sure you were so stressed over this and with your internet connection down you probably didn't see that - so no worries - just for next time.
Oh Rebecca! You have totally put me in check because honest to God who the heck cares about my stupid house deal when you guys have to be dealing with this!! I feel so horrible for you guys and I have no idea what to advise you. I know you know the legal system over there as it pertains to this probably inside and out by now but I can tell you that if it were me I would leave a detailed report for the psych making it absolutely clear that he willfully made a suicide threat in front of Avery because of lack of impulse control. No little person should be subjected to this - it is just torture. I would refuse visitation on the grounds of the suicide threat and that you cant guarantee he wont hurt himself or repetitively threaten to do so in front of her during visitation. He needs to be evaluated and if he made that threat in front of you and Ave he should be admitted into a psych facility ASAP until they have him stabilized so that he WONT hurt himself. I know you dont think he will go that far in front of her but his instability seems to have no bounds really and you cant afford to be surprised anymore IMO. I would be worried at this point that he is going to surprise you and truly hurt himself because he sounds like he is unraveling. What is the process for having him admitted to a psych ward for evaluation? Would it be his word against yours if you called the police or the psych and told them he threatened to kill himself and was exhibiting reckless behavior that could definitely hurt himself or others? Can you call his family? I just dont know....I DO know I wouldnt want Ave anywhere near him - that poor child.... I know she is as always lucky to have you because I absolutely believe you will always make the right decision by her. This time will be no exception I am sure.
{{{{hugs}}}} Rebecca. I agree with Alison, you need to call the psych on this one. It needs to be documented & Ave needs to talk to someone. A child should NOT Have to feel like she does. I must admit reading your post scared me. Please be careful.
Alison- If you email a CM I think they can move posts into another section (well they used to be able to).
Rebeccah - I just had an idea for you - why don't you make an emergency meeting with the psych about his suicidal statement? And also about Ave hearing it - because in a way this is sort of like that - very scary - and that way if you refuse to let her go over there you have good documentation as to why.
I just can't believe he would appear to do better - and then REALLY go so crazy like this.
Thanks everyone. I feel like a crappy freind b/c Ive been MIA for a week now, have barely been able to keep up w/ whats going on w/ you guys, & I come on w/ more freaking drama
R, his statements really scare me. I think he is really 'on the edge' right now, and while there is a fear that he might hurt himself... I'm more worried that if he has Ave with him when he "goes off"... that he might hurt HER as well as hurting himself. Just to get back at YOU.
I do hope you can get some sort of intervention in there- and have him do supervised visits if the visits can't be stopped, because he DOES sound like he could be a danger right now.
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Wow Rebeccah - he is really in agony over the idea of you dating. And this sounds scary to me. I think you should work by yourself with the doc to get a plan. And you need to talk to your attorney, too, to voice your concerns - because this is new and he is clearly over the top. I don't think I would send Avery over there after watching what he said on the moped and driving like that - I wonder if you can call the police so this is documented?
BTW - this post should be in the bottom section because the top section is just for dating and relationships now - the bottom section is for ex talk and all the other stuff. I am sure you were so stressed over this and with your internet connection down you probably didn't see that - so no worries - just for next time.
Be careful!!
I know she is as always lucky to have you because I absolutely believe you will always make the right decision by her. This time will be no exception I am sure.
{{{{hugs}}}} Rebecca.
I agree with Alison, you need to call the psych on this one. It needs to be documented & Ave needs to talk to someone. A child should NOT Have to feel like she does.
I must admit reading your post scared me. Please be careful.
Alison- If you email a CM I think they can move posts into another section (well they used to be able to).
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Rebeccah - I just had an idea for you - why don't you make an emergency meeting with the psych about his suicidal statement? And also about Ave hearing it - because in a way this is sort of like that - very scary - and that way if you refuse to let her go over there you have good documentation as to why.
I just can't believe he would appear to do better - and then REALLY go so crazy like this.
Promise us you will be so so so so so careful!!
So sorry to hear this. I hope you can find a way to help Ave feel safe and comfortable.
Best wishes for the two of you.
Mike
Thanks everyone. I feel like a crappy freind b/c Ive been MIA for a week now, have barely been able to keep up w/ whats going on w/ you guys, & I come on w/ more freaking drama
About the "agony".
R, his statements really scare me. I think he is really 'on the edge' right now, and while there is a fear that he might hurt himself... I'm more worried that if he has Ave with him when he "goes off"... that he might hurt HER as well as hurting himself. Just to get back at YOU.
I do hope you can get some sort of intervention in there- and have him do supervised visits if the visits can't be stopped, because he DOES sound like he could be a danger right now.
Hugs,
~shrimpy
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OMG... .sorry for Ave and you and even TAZ... so so very sad.
HUGS,
Mark
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