teenagers and dating

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2008
teenagers and dating
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Sun, 08-24-2008 - 3:55pm

Hi ! This is my first post here. Hoping someone here has some insight on my situation.


I've been divorced for 8 years and for the most part get along fine with my ex. My kids are 14 and 16.

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Registered: 08-24-2008
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 8:23pm

You are so right. Because of the kids , the relationship is going along slowly and cautiously....which is the smart way. I am glad about that.


With maturity comes acceptance, I think....and hope. This age is very self centered. It can be so ugly!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 8:51am

1st, I commend you on keeping men out of your kids lives until you are sure.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 8:54am

The fact that their dad is an addict

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 11:47am

Hi.

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 11:56am

Hey - Priscilla brings up a GREAT point!

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Registered: 08-24-2008
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 8:35pm

Yes , Pricilla does bring up a great point and its so true of teenagers....they have their own busy social lives and don't want you around except when they want you around...I should have no life except for them.I should be there at their beck and call. My world should revolve around them.


And I totally relate with your sister. My DD is acting the selfish brat and I won't be surprised if thats how she'll always be when it comes to this. Maybe one day a friend will say something to her , like your DD said, and it'll sink in or knock it into perspective....or maybe not!


Either way, I've finally found a wonderful guy and I'm not letting him go because of my kids acting unreasonable. I am just going to stress the respect issue.


I have to thank everyone who took the time to comment on my situation. I really feel better after reading your wisdom. I even feel empowered now to have my guy over for dinner when the kids are home....imagine that!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Fri, 08-29-2008 - 1:23am

It's really in their best interest for you to be happy... how does it go: ain't no one happy if momma ain't happy?

LOL!

The boy

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Fri, 08-29-2008 - 12:01pm

I even feel empowered now to have my guy over for dinner when the kids are home....imagine that!


GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 09-04-2008
Thu, 09-04-2008 - 11:14am
I went without dating for a long time because I have the same problem, the boys I have 13 and 16 are brutal towards my new boyfriend of 4 months. They will not let him in. They say he's a loser, a nerd, geek.
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Thu, 09-04-2008 - 11:45am
Wow!!