teenagers and dating

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2008
teenagers and dating
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Sun, 08-24-2008 - 3:55pm

Hi ! This is my first post here. Hoping someone here has some insight on my situation.


I've been divorced for 8 years and for the most part get along fine with my ex. My kids are 14 and 16.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Thu, 09-04-2008 - 12:09pm

"They want rides all the time, money , attention... on and on.


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Registered: 10-30-2004
Thu, 09-04-2008 - 12:17pm

I would freak out if my kids were talking to an adult like that.

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Thu, 09-04-2008 - 1:01pm

I agree with Al and Isys. The respect issue is huge. Especially if, as noted in your other thread, you are dumping this guy they don't like. By all means separate yourself from Mr Red Flags, but don't let your sons think it is because of their surly behavior. I am not saying you should tell them why or even that you've ended things with this guy, just that you have to address the issue of respectful behavior and logical consequences for not behaving that way. My boys most definitely know that respect is a two way street. Disrespect to others, adults or their peers, is disrespectful to me. Their behavior reflects my values to the world. They understand that and, for the most part, I've had little problems with their behavior. They were not comfortable with my dating in the beginning, but they have always been polite, and we have worked through their concerns. Communication is key, as is maintaining your role as the parent, the one who makes the rules and determines the consequences for breaking the rules.

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