TG - sweet or too sweet

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Registered: 03-25-2002
TG - sweet or too sweet
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Sat, 04-12-2008 - 1:15am

Hmmm... it's been one week of dating... He's cooked for me, waited on me hand and foot, carries me everywhere, and tonight he took me out to dinner... and then thanked ME... after the date he sent me a text saying "I miss you already." Again I ask is he being too sweet or is he genuine? Ya know the saying if something is too good to be true, it usually is...


I think i'm going to check out the signs of an abuser list again.... just to be sure i'm not overlooking something...Perhaps he's just really smitten... He says, he can't stop thinking about me... I went to his house last night... he said he was cooking chicken nuggets... i said, hey make a couple extra for me.... when i got there he had made me dinner... started with the salad with homemade crutons. And he served me... okay,

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 8:42pm
Ok- so have you had "the talk" with TG yet?

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 1:10am

the "talk"?.... are you kidding me... i dont' want the fun to end... something scares me about the "talk".... it's as if i'm taking it serious.. and i'm afraid to....


On my way home from work tonight, i was thinking about your post alison... and for some reason i found myself crying... crying over why things have to be so difficult... why can't they be simple.... i like TG, we have fun together and that includes great sex.... but maybe he's not the guy for me in the long run.... does that mean i'm wasting my time.... i told myself in the car.... i'm not going to turn this into something more... mostly because i'm too afraid to... afraid of being disappointed.... amazing sex is not disappointing... i know i sound crazy...


But i really did like what Sean and i had... no strings, no complications.. just really great sex... i went out and flirted with guys.... got numbers ... even dates... but at the end of it all, i knew i had that sexual outlet with Sean... and Sean never demanded anything from me... he never got mad at me... he always just said the sweetest sexual things to me....and if a new guy didn't call me back, i didn't feel rejected because there was always Sean.... the FWB thing just worked for me... why... because i don't want to try to please someone else.. i don't want to meet his mother... i don't want to cook for him, do his laundry, serve him hand and foot and walk on eggshells if i do something wrong.... and that's what my last relationship was with my ex... one huge nightmare.... and i never measured up....


I thought "why does TG have to be so nice...." it's easier to stay detached if a guy is a jerk... now i know i'm crazy... anyway... I thought of that song by Allanis morrissett.. "you treat me like i'm a princess... i'm not used to liking that..." I'm not used to liking it and i'm terrified.... but i am liking it..... how sweet he is to me, not the terrified part....lol....


So no "talk"

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 10:18am

Loony - there's no pressure. You have to do what's right for you.

Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 03-25-2002
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 11:15am

>>I think sometimes when you have been through an abusive relationship, it is very hard to trust people.

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 12:09pm

Yes.... remember i said i broke my foot circa 3 years ago... i was with the abusive ex.... but we were in the "honeymoon" phase and he did everything for me.... cooked for me, etc.... i was impressed.... but a couple months later.. he threw it in my face..


Wow Loony - Talk about Des Ja Vous (sp?)!

Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 12:14pm

You've made me smile. :-)" And he replied.. "That's all i wanted"


Awww!!! I LIKE this guy!! I am so glad someone is there making you smile~!~


:o)

~Pacific~
~Pacific~
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Registered: 03-25-2002
Tue, 04-15-2008 - 9:05pm

Thanks again... I know a good friend of mine who went thru the same thing.. and she's had a boyfriend now for almost a year, too.. a gem of a guy and she still tells me how she

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