TGIF!

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TGIF!
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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 3:33pm
Anyone have fun plans for the weekend?

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In reply to: cl_revenoc
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 3:46pm

House shopping! I think it's fun, anyway.


That's about it. Church. Helping Ty practice some baseball before his tryouts on Sunday. Um....yeah, that's all I can think of!

Becky

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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 3:56pm

Getting an Easter dress for dd, maybe getting her picture taken. Grocery store on Saturday (we go to the Whole Foods and eat lunch there before we shop). Church on Sunday.

My bf has stopped coming over when dd is there. I asked him why and he said it isn't fair to my dd if he moves away and she is attached to him. I said I thought she was doing well because he didn't come over much and she wasn't more attached to him than any of my other friends. Then he said it's him, he's getting attached to her. It makes me sad but I understand, and what he's doing is fair and reasonable for everyone. She asked about him a couple times at first (just to ask if he was coming over, she was not upset that he didn't), but the last weekend she was with me she didn't ask. At first I thought that meant he was leaning more towards moving, but my therapist's gut reaction is he still just has no idea what he will decide. I think that is probably true. His depression has been much much better the last few weeks and I have been seeing him more when dd is not with me. He's so much more affectionate when he's not depressed. Last weekend I was sick and I told him I needed him to come cuddle with me to make me feel better and he came (a big deal for me to even ask since I usually discount my needs). He took me out to dinner and then took care of me. I keep thinking, fine he's pulling away from dd so he doesn't get attached, but he's pretty emotionally attached to having me in his life! What about that? My therapist says just like I'm not ready to give up on the relationship because of the uncertainty, my bf isn't giving up yet either. Sigh.

Ok, I took your simple weekend question too far but I think I needed to get that out.




Edited 3/11/2005 4:02 pm ET ET by firstamendment

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In reply to: cl_revenoc
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 3:58pm

That's ok, glad you did get it out. Hope it all works out for the best.


Wow, Easter...it is soon. I need to think of something to sing in church!


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Registered: 03-31-2003
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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 4:09pm

Hold back your excitement here.
Tonight, Cub Scouts (well if they don't cancel because yet again, it's snowing) ;).

Tomorrow, I was supposed to get my pedicure and manicure but changed my appointment because of the dreaded S word. haha. Tomorrow night, the kids and I are taking James out to eat for his bday. And we may go see Robots but it's all going to depend on the weather. Hoping it's not too bad.

Sunday, I'm cooking corned beef and cabbage and all that for my parents and his parents. If it's not too cold, we'll walk up the street and watch a little of the parade and then have a nice big meal. mmm, yummy. I know not everyone loves corned beef and cabbage but it's a big tradition here in our house. :)

Have a great weekend!

Tara

 

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In reply to: cl_revenoc
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 4:10pm

((((hug))))


I am sorry for the uncertainty that continues in your relationship with your b/f. Doesn't seem fair for him to keep you dangling, but I know it's hard for

Becky

 

 

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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 4:15pm

LOVE Corned Beef and Cabbage. LOVE LOVE LOVE it!!!!


Is it St. Pat's day already though? I need to get to the store and get a corned beef before they are sold out. They're always as cheap as dirt right now! ;)

Becky

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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: cl_revenoc
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 4:20pm
I know it's not fair. But some of it is not his fault - he is in limbo because the courts are listening to the demands of his ex's attorney to not allow the state to recompute the cs (state guidlines would lower it a significant amount). He can't comply with the visitation schedule *or* move until that is resolved. It takes money to move, it takes money to fly to another state every month. He's stuck in limbo too. I think that once it is resolved and he can go see his son regularly, he will realize that staying is the best option (vs moving and fighting for who knows how many years to get a new visitation schedule - they won't just change it if he moves, he'll have to fight to get more time, and he is not going to move and go through all that (giving up his job, moving away from his family, giving up a future with me) just so he can be near his son and see him 1 and 1/2 days per month). Ugh. At some point fighting more just isn't worth it. But that doesn't make him feel less guilty. Even though he's done everything in his power legally to stay involved in his son's life, he feels he's fallen down on his responsibility to be there as a parent and that is what he's having such a hard time coping with.

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In reply to: cl_revenoc
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 4:23pm

St. Pat's...it's the 17th?


Hey, do we have some irish gals on the board? Irish scorpio's if I'm not mistaken....


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In reply to: cl_revenoc
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 4:58pm

PLANS?...To hang on for dear life with my training schedule.

I am now 7 weeks out for the big race in St. Croix. I feel like I am barely making it. Tomorrow I have to ride my bike fast - with intervals - for almost 2 hours and then I have to run for an hour.

Sunday is a 3.5 hour ride with a 20 minute run afterwards.

Somehow I am going out with the girls on Saturday. A nap will be in order for sure.

I suppose the good about all this training is that I am losing weight and going to bed early - no time to think about not having that nooner that Candi was talking about!!

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In reply to: cl_revenoc
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 5:00pm

omigod! you are so dedicated.


I'm hoping I can get myself to work out twice this week, so I can get a jump on what karate is doing for me.

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