Thank you all SO much!!!

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Thank you all SO much!!!
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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 9:49am

I just wanted to thank you all so very much for all the warm support you have given me with my hectic dating life. LOL. I would respond to all of you, but I decided to do it as a whole.

I was sooo thrilled that my girls were home last night! I missed them so much after two months. We have so much to catch up on!

Both girls just grew up so much in those two months. A lot of changes. They've been clinging on to Mom though the entire time. So it's nice to know that though my oldest (14)spends half the day in front of the mirror now, she is still volunteering to sit in my lap, give me big hugs and snuggle with her old mother.

Anyway, as you all know I decided to put everything relationship wise on hold. I guess what I meant to tell you by that all is that I have decided to quit dating. For several weeks, I felt that I didn't want to date anymore, but I thought it might be primarily to figure out the situation with JS. But spending time with him and not having time enough to myself, I realized it isn't because of him, it is really because I am really sick of dating.

I am enjoying my singlehood and being alone more, more and more. I have been happy alone for quite sometime. I guess I always was, but everytime I am in a realationship, I realize I just really enjoy being alone. I'm happy if I don't have some guy calling me every night; I'm happy when I'm not being interrupted in my daily routine or during my housework. I'm happy that I don't have some guy whining about my time when I am with my girls or my friends. I'm happier being with my new group and my new friends and enjoying the time spent with them when I'm not with my kids. I have so many things going on in my life that I doubt I have time to date once the week anyway, so I might as well, just quit for awhile. Last night was a perfect example (not worth telling) that I really don't want to take the time for a relationship. I just want to be left alone and that I've wanted it for some time.

And in all honesty: I'm not THAT into anyone enough. I miss being single, not dating, not in a relationship: just SINGLE. When I see a ultra hot guy, I enjoy seeing if I can get a flirt out of it! Not a date, but a flirt. It's fun, it's harmless... no drama and I can walk away feeling good about myself and know it is without strings. Chopping off all my hair was because I got tired of people coming on to me. A definite sure sign I was over it.

So.. when I wrote yesterday that I wasn't into a relationship anymore, I meant I won't be dating anymore. If Mr. History calls, I will talk to him, but he isn't a priority. Maybe I will grab a beer with him, maybe I won't. I don't consider that a date or dating. I like him and very much understood why he did what he did (I'm not innocent from what happened). But it doesn't change the difference that I'm over it all.
I will have a discussion with JS soon and then I am going to just disappear.

Soooo, I will won't be taking the 'date' or 'relationship' challenge, but I am going to enjoy the fun of flirting (which I have become quite good at). And see how many flirts I can get. Although, I guess I still consider it a part of the date challenge without the date.

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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 10:02am

Glad the girls got in safe and sound. Enjoy spending time with them now. I know they will be starting school in a couple of weeks. I have lots of things planned to do with my kids over the weekend and it will be fun. Next week soccer starts so I will have that going on as well as gymnastics that started last week. So busy, busy mom.

Good for you on giving up the dating. I think that is a good move on your part. Flirting is fun and harmless. Sounds like you just need some calm quiet girl time.

Priscilla

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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 10:32am

Cat,


I agree that you should take a time-out, it's good for your health!


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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 10:38am

I enjoy the flirting, too!!! I totally relate to what you are saying about enjoying being single... enjoying the freedom... not having to explain myself when I spend time with my children. What I do is MY choice and I love it.... I enjoy a date now and then, but not sure how I'd feel about a relationship...

One day at a time... ENJOY the moment!!!

Love,
Loonybunny

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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 10:47am
How fun that your 14 year old would want to sit in your lap!! And what stories they will tell. I think it is a great experience that they got to go to Europe together on their own. It is great when kids can see and experience 2 different cultures. And great that 2 sisters would learn to be together and rely on each other.
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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 11:03am

Enjoy your time to yourself! I love having my time and not having to answer to anyone! I know that E and I are dating now but he TOTALLY gets that when I have my son, it is time that I treasure and he knows not to mess with it. :) He has his girls 70% of the time so he gets to see them more than I get to see my son. I'm just glad I found someone that doesn't mind that I'm not up his butt 24/7. :)

Relax and have fun flirting and enjoy your girls. :)

Jennifer