Thanks to all!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2006
Thanks to all!
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Thu, 01-11-2007 - 11:24am

Thanks to everyone who posted to my message yesterday.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 01-12-2007 - 8:33am

We are always glad to help!!

With regards to the question - when should my date/SO meet my child - we all question that. Most will advise, and rightfully so, that you should wait until the relationship is firmly established to the point that this could be the one.

There is a rule someone here created - we date - our kids don't date. I think it is a mistake to allow your child to see a whirlwind of dates coming and going from your life. They have already been through a painful divorce or breakup of their parents. And to keep seeing that over and over is too much for them.

So my advice is to keep them out of the dating - make them feel secure and safe in their own lives and their relationship with you. And wait to introduce.

6 hours is good to keep it slow - and fun for you. But perhaps that is something you will have to bridge before bringing a child into play? How possible is it for the other person to move near you? I assume you won't move to uproot your child?

Hope this helps!

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Fri, 01-12-2007 - 4:16pm

I would not have a man come over for the weekend so early in the relationship if my child was in the house. You need time to get to know this guy and wait until you're really sure about him before your child gets introduced. Family time with a boyfriend and your child doesn't happen until your relationship is extremely serious.

The 6-hour distance would be a deal breaker for me. If he can't move closer to you, I don't think this relationship can progress to anything other than a weekend get-together just every now and then.

Do you have any prospects closer to home?