Thanks to all the comments

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Registered: 06-02-2006
Thanks to all the comments
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Tue, 10-10-2006 - 6:00pm
Thanks to everyone that wrote me back. I have responded to all of the comments on my Baby Daddy discussion title. I hope everyone got them because your comments really do make me feel better. I just want everyone to know that I appreciate the support. If anyone would like to keep writing back and forth then just write me back. People say I give good advise and I need to take my own, so if anyone needs to talk to me, I am here.
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Registered: 10-04-2006
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 11:45pm
Hi again "mom". Reading your other post made me think back to when I was first single again. I have been divorced for 2 years after a 10 year marriage. I try to be a pretty analytical, logical person so I thought I could anticipate the emotions I would have when we first split. Ha. I thought, "Sure, I'll feel sad, lonely, isolated. I can handle those." What I didn't anticipate was the feeling of failure. Especially when he re-married so quickly after our divorce. We were divorced in June, he got married on New Years Eve of the same year. As soon as he was re-married, I started having thoughts of "Where did I go so wrong?" or the big one was "How could he replace me so quickly and easily?!" It's like I hit a major detour in the path of my life, he just had a little speed bump. I'd find I would try to cheer myself up with thoughts of "I'll find someone so much better when I'm ready", but that little voice would follow it up with "Until you screw that up too." I'd be willing to bet I'm not the only one on this board who had those types of thoughts.
I guess I was thinking back to that time, remembering I felt blind-sighted by the feeling of failure thing. Thought I'd let you in on it in case it sneaks up on you, too.
Stay in touch!
Sheesh