but that's why birds do it

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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 9:55am

bees do it, even educated fleas do it, let's do it, let's fall in love....

This is one of the princess' favorite songs, and we sing and dance to it on a regular basis.

My little princess is 6!!! years old today! We're actually celebrating on Sunday since it's my only day off, but she got a new dress to wear to school today, will get flowers delivered, and brought cupcakes to share. She was thrilled, and seeing her so happy made my day.

She has also decided to donate her hair to locks of love. I was stunned several weeks ago when she asked me if she could- most of you know my father has cancer, and he has lost his hair three times. I never made mention of locks of love, but after her last trim, she asked me if she could donate. I said yes, of course, even though her hair is so long and beautiful.

So, Saturday, she's going to get it chopped it up to her shoulders, and she's excited about that. It surprised me, and warmed my heart that she's thinking of other children without prompting- she's such a sweetheart when she isn't whining.

Droid was a little put out by his sister's good heartedness, but has no desire to grow his hair. So he's donating his piggy bank money, again, completely on his own and without prompting. I have good kids. He'll get a flower and balloons in school today, too.

funnyguy and I are still going strong, he's a wonderful addition to our lives. On Mother's Day, I didn't hear from the father of my children, and didn't expect to. funnyguy got me a flower and wished me a Happy Mother's Day. He repeatedly tells me how great a job he thinks I'm doing with the kids, and that makes me happy.

We went to breakfast at my parents', lunch at his, and a backyard bbq at brown eyed girl's house. It was such a busy, fun, happy day. I still worry some about all the family-type activities we do, but I don't worry about him leaving. Maybe worry isn't the right word, but I'm careful not to make us into an insta-family.

We do make time for us to be a couple too, so I'm glad he enjoys spending time with us as a group. The kids adore him, and he seems to truly enjoy them too, not as MY children, but as the independent beings they are.

Everything is just right with him. It's fast and sudden, definitely, but the connection is amazing, which makes it easier to relax my own rules (or break them completely) about dating.

I don't have to see him every day, but we do contact each other at least once a day, and spend a lot of time together. This is usually fairly late at night, and he's here overnight sometimes. I like that we don't have to have sex, we don't ever run out of things to talk about, and our lifestyles are so comaptible.

It always amazes me how supportive he is. I make candles as a hooby, and would love to have it turn into a money-making venture, but so far it hasn't, simply because I am pretty laid back about doing it, and haven't ever tried to sell them. funnyguy's mother is an amazing quilter and goes to craft shows. He tells her about the candle thing I do, and is prompting me to sell my candles at the craft shows she goes to. Any one else who's known about the candles is not even interested, but certianly doesn't try to help me move it along. He isn't pushy about it, just very supportive of anything I want to do. It is such a blessing, and I didn't know I was missing it before.

Work is still insane, and I'm seriously considering looking for another job. I love what I do, but these hours are killing me. I am making tons more money, but I have no time to spend it! Maybe that's a good thing, since shopping is one of my favorite pasttimes. But I also get very little time with the kids since I'm working six days and long hours. There are a couple of coworker issues, and that on top of the killer hours is making me think there must be an eaiser way to keep a roof over our heads!

I am not jumping into anything too hastily- I have great benefits, good pay, and really enjoy what I do. I just want less to do, more time to do it in, and more money for not getting it done. Is that too much to ask? well, yeah, it probably is....

so, there's my update, and I'm sorry I haven't been as communicative lately, I am still reading everyone's posts and catching up when I can!

Moody, who wishes it would get warm


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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 9:58am

I like what you write about funnyguy - this is getting better all the time! Good work!!

Happy Birthday to the princess!! Both kids sound like such winners - they are very generous and sweet. I know where they got that from!!

Sorry to hear your exh is a dodo like mine. But that is how it goes.

Do you think you can talk to them at work and ask for less hours? Maybe a helper is in order? If you dont ask you don't get and sometimes it is easier to fix what you got and it is a devil you know.....

Keep us posted!!

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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 11:46am

Happy birthday to your princess!!!

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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 12:38pm

Happy birthday to your little princess! She sounds like a very thoughtful little girl! That is wonderful what they want to do for others.

Funnyguy is sounding better all of the time! I'm so glad that things are still going strong and working out for the best. That is wonderful!

Don't let work get to you too bad. I feel your pain though except mine is in the opposite direction! I'm looking for a new job as we speak but in this small town, the good ones are few and far between!

Thanks for the update!

Jennifer

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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 12:44pm

AWE! They all sound so sweet. Sounds like Mr. Funnyguy is a perfect addition to an already perfect family. I think you are balancing everything out perfectly and moving in the right direction for a long and happy future together.

Cat - whose finding it hard not to read into it, but it sounds so great.

p.s.: My oldest is also doing locks of love.

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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 3:07pm

This is really to all:

The work thing was supposed to resolve itself, as far as how many hours I'm working. SO far it hasn't, but I have been working two positions. I let both bosses know that I wouldn't be able to work two full time jobs indefinitely, and we're all working on a solution.

My original boss doesn't want to lose me, which I can understand, since I am awesome after all. My other boss doesn't want to let me go, either, and is pushing for me to work for just him full time. That would be better for me, since it's a promotion with a big raise and the coworker issue is then resolved.

Until something has been made definite, I will keep on keepin' on, but they know I can't do this forever. It isn't fair to me, and it certainly isn't fair to the kids.

Moody, who should be wading through the paperwork on her desk


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