Things fitting too well
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| Mon, 01-07-2008 - 6:35am |
I lurk here a lot but haven't had much to post about. I have been dating around off and on for a year, but I haven't really had a strong connection with anyone. I did spend a lot of time with one guy who I kept thinking "if this is a phase and he gets out of this, it may work", but he never got out of that phase...lol.
Anyway, I have met someone now who is just wonderful. We were friends for several months before we started dating. We have a mutual long-term friend, and she agrees that he is wonderful (it was good for me to have somebody who has known him for a while after what happened in my marriage). Because I am jaded, I keep looking for something wrong with him (what's the catch?), and I am trying to just enjoy what we have. We had our first DTR yesterday because we wanted to make sure there are some physical boundaries so we don't get sucked in too fast (it is sooooo hard). We both have a tremendous respect for each other and do not want to hurt the other person by going too fast too soon. It has only been a month since we have really started the dating part--we have hung out together as friends since last summer.
Anyway, I love how everything fits so well--his dd, my dds, us, our way of parenting, etc. I was trying to keep my options open and still see others, but after a date last week that was annoying at best, I don't see how I can. I am enjoying my time with him too much, and everyone else seems like a waste of my precious time. I have enough social outlets without adding another with "dating random people." This isn't the formula I wanted to follow because I wanted to make sure I wasn't settling, but I really don't think I am settling at all...so far it is too good to be true. I tend to drop them fast when I see a dealbreaker because I am too busy as it is...anyone else get exclusive before they wanted to in theory? lol

I had to look up DTR - and found it means define the relationship - very good - we will all have to remember that one!!
Anyway, the important thing - is how does he feel about you and the relationship? Because it sounds like you really like him but you are unsure.
If you want more time there is nothing wrong with going slow, enjoying what you have and keeping eyes open.
I think that is it--I just don't want to have to keep up with anyone else, and I do think I have found a keeper.
I think I have changed my mind and have decided to back up a little.
Okey dokey, reading through the post and I
This perspective did help, but I must admit the whole "rebound" thing confuses me.