Things you thought you'd never do....

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Things you thought you'd never do....
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Sun, 02-17-2008 - 2:26pm

Ok, list a few things you thought you would never do, but did after your divorce. Three positives, one negative....


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 02-17-2008 - 4:16pm

Positives:
I thought I would never be able to buy a house but I managed to get an attached townhouse two years ago.

I thought I would never find a job and company that fits me and that I fit it after being out of work for 4 years with two Master degrees.

I thought I would never be the fittest I have ever been in my life (which included when I was doing marathons).

Negative:
I never thought I would never feel ill will toward my former spouse but I do because of how angry she is and having a sense of entitlement after leaving her a fully paid for 2500 sq ft house and a pile of money plus support.

Mark

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 02-17-2008 - 4:55pm

- swim
- bike
- run
- ironman!

Okay - that is 4 of them. I am having the time of my life. Have ambiguous thoughts about being in a relationship because I simply feel as though I am getting away with murder not having someone to give me an opinion about what I love to do. I have a big mind - can think of great things to do and great goals for myself and do everything in a big fashion - always have. Don't know how someone my age is going to keep up with me and let me be me and not judge me or try to change me or feel put off by my accomplishments?

Not sure of a negative - maybe just that dating is such a pain in the tuckus?

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sun, 02-17-2008 - 6:06pm

I never thought I'd run half marathons


I never thought I'd downhill ski and LIKE it.


I never thought I'd get to travel.


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Registered: 11-22-2006
Sun, 02-17-2008 - 6:07pm

I never ever thought I would be able to be a concert violinist and a Mom
I never thought I would be able to accept my ex for who he is and stop trying to make him a better Dad - this is a positive!
I never thought I would be thinking about being a new Mom again but I now have those thoughts

I never thought I would have such trouble raising my kid the way I want to in this world. So many potential bad influences around. I didnt know how tough it would be to be a consistently good Mom and stay patient!

Lilypie - Personal picture
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Registered: 11-25-2007
Sun, 02-17-2008 - 10:33pm

Great Idea for a thread!


I never thought I would dare to get a tattoo or 2 (raised extremely conservative/strict/sheltered - tats were for military men only!)


I never thought I would crave alone time and would rather stay home on Friday night when I am free of kids and crash at 9.30, over being cooked for and

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Mon, 02-18-2008 - 8:58am

Positive:

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 9:29am

Positives:


I got my BS degree and am considering going back for my Masters.


I have lived on my own for officially 12 years last week and in that time I have managed to buy a house, renovate it and add to my family without much outside help!


I cherish the fact that I get to be myself and I don't have to deal with someone telling me what to do--I let my kids practice roller blading in the house last night (new roller blades) and I was okay with it--my ex would have had fits!


Negatives:


My bed was very cold last night--I miss having someone to hold/hold me every night...Also miss having that guy figure in the house for my kids--we were discussing that this morning, both my kids are afraid of their Dad's and won't do wrong in front of them but with me they could care less--there is no fear there (I do punish them, they are just not afraid of me!)


April

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Registered: 06-18-2006
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 12:39pm

Positives:

-buying a car on my own

-living on my own and paying my own bills

-teaching my daughters when they're older to be strong, independent women

Negatives:

- not having someone to cuddle with every night

- not having a married mom and dad for my kids

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 1:02pm

I like this topic, even though I'm not feeling particularly great in the "things I've done" yet catagory.


Positives:


Learned I can

~Pacific~
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Registered: 11-03-2003
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 1:03pm

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