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thinking hard today
| Thu, 09-09-2004 - 4:53pm |
Am I terrible? I heard an estimate of people being home from overseas in 4 years, that was Kerry's optimistic "if you elect me" estimate. That's optimistic?
I have really been thinking that over. I don't want to be without Trav for 4 years, or even only seeing him every 6 months. I don't want to be "on hold" for that long. I need to communicate that to him, I guess...
Feels pretty sad...I'm trying to convince myself I'm not being a quitter.

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BUT WAIT. Don't start the negative thought process. Try to adjust to this news the best way you can. You have to chill and be there for Trav. I am sure it is harder on him to have to leave you and go there.
You can't predict the future - he could be home much sooner. AND even if you decided you don't want to wait, 4 years could go by and you might STILL NOT have someone. You can spend the time he is away being positive - sending notes, gifts, baked goods - and improving yourself - or you can throw it all away and be miserable and make him miserable.
Hang in there. You still have us.
Hugs!
Mel
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*sigh*...
I like what Mel posted. Listen to her!!
About Trav...that's really tough. I hear you...to date someone that you're going to be seeing...8 times in the next four years?? It's nice to have a penpal...but do you want a penpal...how are you supposed to get to the next level if you actually spend more cyber time than 'real' time together? I would be thinking hard, too.
I'm taking one grad class at the moment and putting together my papers to apply for admittance to the grad department. And what the HELL I'm going to do for my thesis, I don't know. But it seems you're supposed to.
The Japanese I do on my own with software and I have a conversation partner I meet with once a week.
I bet you could find Japanese friends there! Not many here...I think 20 at the Uni and that's about it. :)
I'd like to hear from trav that it won't be that long, but I don't think he can even tell me at this point.
I know that must be really frustrating and discouraging.
If it were me, I guess I'd look at this as a very casual relationship and date here and there when the opportunity arose.
Hugs Candi. I am sorry this has been so difficult. I think my thoughts would be along the same lines as Tara's, but only YOU know what you are willing to do within the boundaries of this relationship.
It's tough to wait so long without a positive lifelong commitment. Hang in there. Keep pursuing the studies and such and working on you. You have been SO MUCH MORE positive and upbeat the last half a year or so. I am very happy for you. So, I guess that's to encourage you that while YOU feel down right now, at this moment, I see good good things going on in you. That has to count for something!
Hugs again.
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