Thinking of moving again....
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Thinking of moving again....
| Tue, 09-04-2007 - 12:24pm |
It's been so hard the last two years living in a place with no family and friends that I am highly considering a move back to San Antonio, Texas where I still have old friends and family. I really love it here, but only because of the sceneary, not because I have something keeping me. Texas is so dry and ugly and hot. Here it's beautiful, but beauty doesn't cut the friendships and family. Alex's dad would be their, her grandmother, my sister and her hubby/kids and then all of the friends I graduated High School with. I just wouldn't feel so alone. I just hate the thought of moving again, but what am I going to do here always being alone? Anyone else feel like a move closer to family was good for them? Even though you liked where you lived?

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I hate moving too. I don't really have any family and have made a lot of great friends since being here. This is my home and I love it. If I was closer, I'm sure we would be friends.
I guess the MEETUP group isn't producing any real friendships for you. That is such a shame. I do think it is more difficult making friends as you age. I don't really keep in touch with any of my old high school friends. Have you tried a hobby that may be a group activity. That could be a way to make great friends. Just an idea.
Sorry it is so rough.
Priscilla
BTW I may be your way later in the month.
I did just the opposite.
I haven't ever moved closer simply because of wanting to be near family, but I've also never lived far from them. I did move in with my parents a couple of years ago to help with things when my father fell ill. I am now living further from them than I ever have (about 45 miles), and i know they miss the availability I used to have regarding stopping by or helping out.
I am very close to my family, and I know I couldn't ever be that far from them. This move was basically for the kids, I wanted a new school district that would suit their needs as they grew, and because it's a more affordable and desirable location.
I can't imagine how hard it must be for you to not live near your family or friends, and I guess I would probably be considering the move as well.
Good luck, you know we're always here for you.
Moody, a hometown girl at heart
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My only complaint with your post was "Texas is so dry and ugly and hot." because I don't agree with you!!! ;-) I think Texas is beautiful! And San Antonio this year- is ANYTHING but dry! They're getting LOADS of rain this year. It's the TX panhandle (where I live) that is still too dry this year (although we had a very wet spring- the faucet shut off all summer). And the "hot" part? Even that part wasn't so bad this year, IMO. Not as bad as it can get sometimes.
But beyond THAT part of your decision about moving... I have to say it worked MUCH better for me to live near family after my divorce. I couldn't imagine living anywhere else- because they offer an invaluable support, sometimes as babysitting, but mostly as emotional support and companionship with family activities.
I think the friends and family connection bypasses scenery/weather any day.
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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LOL! Sorry to have offended! I lived their long enough to know that the beauty that they have in SATX this year is a fluke! I don't know really what to do....
I am really confused about making a right decision. I just swore off Texas soo long ago and to me it seems like the dead end. I still have these other dreams and I do love NC so much, but I feel very torn right now. I guess I'll hold out a little longer and see where my heart really leads me.
I just wanted to see what everyone thinks of moving near or away family.
I often think about moving back home, too... where I have more family and my best friends from High School.... who are both single moms, too.
The last time i visited was a year ago and we all went out.. man hunting... but really we just had a blast together... the guys we met were a bonus... miss that.... Fortunately, i feel like i'm developing some good girl buddies here, too.... like Summer, Jan, and Reba.... My friend Birdie moved to Altanta and told me she's planning a wedding for this December.
It depends on your family. I think there are pros and cons to living near and far. My family has never really helped me all that much since I have moved here. My divorce caused much strife and I feel like a third wheel to my sister and my mom - my mom has always favored her because they are so similar.
I really think I enjoyed them more when I lived far away. There is more drama from being here - but then I do have the plus of never having to say goodbye. So it is a mixed bag to me.
If I was you, I would look more at the job/school/career horizon - it depends on where you will do the best as the sole breadwinner and where you think your kids will have the best friends in school and the best education. It does take about 4-5 years to really settle into a place where you find a group of friends and get to know everything.
I thought I remembered you saying you did not want to live close to them - but maybe I am confusing you with someone else. Just wanted to bring a different perspective to the table. Perhaps you can take a visit there for your next vacation and evaluate those things?
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