T.J. - how are you? Any update?

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Registered: 02-25-2009
T.J. - how are you? Any update?
Mon, 04-26-2010 - 10:27pm

Im thinking of you! & i just pulled up your post to show the girls at work, & i see he deleted his. HAHAHA! That tells me he was freaking out about your post.

Any feedback from him? Any women emial you about your ad?


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Registered: 11-25-2007
Mon, 04-26-2010 - 10:46pm
you beat me, I was going to post to see how shes doing?

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 12:08pm

I'm good, then I'm bad, then I'm one hiccup from a straight jacket lol.

I'm still torn with my last threat I gave him.. which was:

Confess, or I'll email all these women (I got their email addys while I was in there) and his response was "embarass me all you want, I'll get over it".

It kills me that he is unable to confess or even to say that he ever loved me. Its always "I care about you.." GRRRR!

So its hard.. part of me wants to make him hate me as much as I hate him, and the other part of me just wants to walk away.

So I guess in general.. no changes, still a bit psycho, still very very sad.

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 12:39pm
TJ - This guy sounds like a complete classless jacka$$.
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Registered: 05-13-2009
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 1:09pm

TJ, what would it do if he did

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Registered: 09-23-2003
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 1:11pm
Hanging out in pychoville works for the short term. Long term, try your best to just let it go. You can't and won't change him. You aren't going to hear what you wanna hear from him. Threatening him isn't going to get you anywhere. People like that do not care. Grab a good bottle of wine, or something, enjoy the pycho moment you had with the craigslist response, picture him in hell, and move on. Good luck chickie!!!
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 1:36pm

Unfortunately your anger and acting out are only going to make him believe you are psycho or unstable.

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 8:18pm

I know what you guys are saying.. which is why I have not done anything. I didn't want to cross the line into super psycho unstable mode lol. I still have some very sad moments. I was looking at a very pretty lady that came into work today, and just looking at her made me cry. I've just never been affected like this before. I slowly fell out of love with my ex husband, I've never experienced anything like this. And then I think about how they thought it was funny how I"m not up to his standards. Have I mentioned he's almost ten years older than me, has old man skin, kisses like a 12 year old,

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 8:19pm

Oh, and I have almost reached my first weight loss goal, and I'm treating myself to a massage.

However, my second weight loss goal is a trip to San Fran to go party with Bimbo. Not sure if you all remember Bimbo but we are betrothed to eachother if we're both 50 and single. LOL.

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Registered: 03-30-2008
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 8:55pm
Bimbo is exactly what you need TJ! Keep hanging in there. You're worth so much more than he will ever realize or deserve!!
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Registered: 04-14-2006
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 9:46pm

Hey I have a "bimbo" too in Santa Cruz.