Told BG...what a mess!!!

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Told BG...what a mess!!!
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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 12:31pm

So I sent BG and email last night and told him that I wanted to step back, take a break and explore other avenues.

Cat

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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 2:14pm

Let me know!!! I would love to see you! Have you heard of the Cold Springs Tavern? Its a local hangout where riders meet. Its just

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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 3:22pm

Haha- you suck! OMG! Even my SON, who is EIGHT is more articulate!!!

"So that's where I am. I'm feeling so raw and hurt by his reaction. I never imagined in a million years he would even care that I decided to go. "

He DOESN'T care that you decided to go, so wipe that out of your head- he's just mad that he can't manipulate you anymore to get what he wants, so yes, he's going to throw a temper tantrum!

I wouldn't talk to him tonight, don't explain yourself again- just wait it out and move on.

As for the group, the less said the better... do they even know you two were a "serious item"? People just want the gossip about what happened, and you deflect that by being the higher person and saying, "you'd have to ask BG".

And truly, what can he say about you? You gave him 150%, you were there for him through thick and thin and were willing to put up with him giving 2% and taking it back... gee- who looks like the bad guy?

"Admire what you DO have, and stop asking for what you don't." Ds-age 8


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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 5:37pm

This is a knee jerk reaction to rejection in my mind, from what you have written, and is not an indication of him feeling the way you do and wanting what you want.

I think you have to give it a little time and space and you can see each other after time. Hopefully he is not around so much so you don't have drama in your club!!

Sorry you have had all this confusion with him but I think this is the final nail in the coffin - it is all about him.

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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 6:59pm

Thank you all so much for your support.

Cat
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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 7:04pm

Well, I'm glad you're not falling for his tantrum!

Stay strong, any time you feel like calling him, call someone else or come here to vent!!!

"Admire what you DO have, and stop asking for what you don't." Ds-age 8


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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 7:38pm
I have absolutely no desire to talk to him. I keep reading the email I sent to him and how he responded to it and know I did the right thing. I understand this might change and I appreciate the encouragement to come here and vent. I won't see him until the 16th at our monthly ride meeting and I'm going to go and show him that I'm over it and not going to let him intimidate me.
Cat
Cat
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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 7:52pm

Good for you!!!!

You will feel more and more empowered as the time gets closer! :)

"Admire what you DO have, and stop asking for what you don't." Ds-age 8


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Tue, 07-29-2008 - 9:50am

Sounds like he wants to take and not give back. Oh boy. Do I know that situation. You deserve someone who can give too.

Laurie

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Tue, 07-29-2008 - 10:11am

You are so right. I once heard "you never reallly know anyone until you divorce them" ... Lord knows that proved right with ME!


You did the right thing! FOR SURE.

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