Tonight Was A "Cops" Episode!

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Tonight Was A "Cops" Episode!
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Fri, 10-07-2005 - 11:00pm

Well...I go to my EMT class tonight, and guess who I was sitting behind...my exhusband's girlfriend! Yes, this is the "main one" that he continually cheated on me with. Oh joy...but I handled it well...talked to her after class. I told her that I didn't have a problem with her whatsoever and that I just wanted to come to class without any problems.
However, I didn't know that during the break she got up and called my ex and told him I was in the class.

So, after class I called my mom, and she told me to get to her house fast. The OW had called my ex, ex and his dad showed up at my mom's to get my dd - tried to use force. My step-dad and to physically keep them from coming in the house. The police were called out...5 of them were there to be exact. My sister came over and got my dd so she wasn't in all this drama and stupid mess. The police called and found out that the judge has not signed ANY papers. Therefore, I don't have to let dd go and if I do my ex doesn't have to give her back. Plus, they said that I wasn't divorced when the circuit clerk had told me that I was! I don't know! I'm just getting the run around...but at least my dd wasn't taken tonight. The police told my ex point blank that there was no order or signed papers saying that she was supposed to go with him and therefore he could not take her from my parent's house.

AAGGHH...my head is hurting so bad now...lol...

But I just have a feeling everything is going to be okay. I am GOING to the court house with the court advocate Monday and getting an RO, not only on my ex, but his dad and step mom as well. They are not going to push me around and try to steal my child from me. I'm not running from him anymore, nor am I going to be intimidated and scared!

The advice about going out of town is very appealing to me! Just so happens my family is going on a little weekend get away and I'm going along...both my dd and I need some peace and rest! This weekend trip will do us some good...and I won't have to think about my ex, at least for a couple of days!

Thanks for listening everyone - I appreciate it from the bottom of my heart!

Hugs,
Kait

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Fri, 10-07-2005 - 11:16pm

OMG Kait!


I'm glad you're ok, and that your family is ok!


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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 9:24am

It sounds like everyone in your family handled it the right way, and it's good to at least know there is no order signed!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 5:34pm

That is crazy - but your family handled it correctly and you found out valuable info. Get the restraining order and the 100% temp custody as Alison says.

Keep us posted - good to hear you will go out of town now.

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Registered: 10-08-2005
Sun, 10-09-2005 - 10:15am

Hi, good for you and your whole family!!! I would definitely get that RO and follow up with the paperwork or whatever & make sure you are divorced. Also, finalize custody - this little incident may work in your favor in that way.

All easier said than done, as I know from experience - but good luck with all of it!