Tonight's date

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Tonight's date
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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 1:05am

So tonight is Date #2 with the Cindy, 48 yr old teacher-librarian. we had sushi. She comes across as direct, self assured, inquisitive, and open. I really enjoyed her. I like that she runs. She ran a couple of marathons. I told her that she looked attractive. And after she revealed how she is learning to be more self aware, I told her that was huge in having me thinking her as more attractive.

She asked me about my other dates. I told her about Jane and Lynn. She said she would like Jane. I told her how almost every woman I dated I would want to be friends with but did not have the energy or the time. Cindy was looking for more single woman friends.

I asked her about who she is dating. She said five but all of whom she won't be dating anymore. So I guess that leaves me. She told me that she likes me. I told her the same. She also said that this is an exploration and encourages me to continue to date the others. So I like that. I am not use to dating more than one woman. I tend to like one and just jump in with both feet. I also like that I can be upfront and honest with her about the other women and visa versa with her. For me this is relationship Gold - the direct, honest, up front communication especially for the "hard" topics.

What I liked about her is her vulnerable honesty or frank honesty. She told me how she is lonely. So when I said she comes across as self assured, the fact she revealed that she gets lonely does not detract from that perception.

She also told me that she wants to read "Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships" by David Schnarch after I told her that was one of my relationship "bibles." She likes John Gottman which I have not read but heard of. What I liked about why she said she wanted to read it because I told her how Schnarch relates how our sexual interactions with our partner is a metaphor of the state of the relationship and reveals how we feel and are with ourselves. So that tells me that she is interested in sex.

In fact she asked me directly if I liked women. Which took me aback. Apparently she is dating a guy who is asexual. I said DAMN, you don't know how much I LIKE women. I did not want to go to the sexual explicit wording because I was not sure how appropriate that would be. She did say that he kissed like how a grandmother kisses. So at the end of the date I asked for a kiss. She thought I kissed nice. I told her I guess I passed that test. SCORE!

She wants to see me again but not sure when for she'll be traveling up to Seattle to she her granddaughter. So sometime next week.

She is in the running to invite to come with me to see the B-52s in two weeks which BTW CNDG is going with her DD12. Part of me wants to show up with a date to show her up. That is my shadow self though for I know she only wants the best for me.

Tomorrow night I got a dinner with Jane, the 51 yo social worker and afterwards a comedy club. My co-worker has free tickets. She is funny, quick, talkative, and intelligent. I am a bit off putting that she talks a lot and does not really engage me in a conversation.

Saturday night I got dinner and Latin jazz with Lynn, 56 yo nurse. She is the hottest looking one and wants to be able to connect with others better but I'm struggling a bit to feel that openness from her so the attraction is not as great as with Cindy. I'll see if we can let loose with the music. Anyone who is free enough with themselves to boogie out in public is a plus for me.

And oh BTW, I got a call from a 59 yo widow of 4 yrs that contacted me off Match and said she was going to call but never did. Now she did. No picture on the profile but the conversation was good. We're going to have a Sunday coffee.

Mark so thinks he must be doing something right to be attracting a plethora of attractive and open women





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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In reply to: mhash
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 10:04am

Mark,


I'm glad you're having fun meeting all these lovely ladies!

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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 10:24am

I like the runner the best - but maybe I am biased - but I think she has a lot of qualities you like.

You are just doing better and better. And I really enjoy your stories and thoughts. You are kind to share with us in such detail.

Keep us posted! When do you think you might be inclined to narrow it down further or go exclusive? Just curious - maybe it is a wait and see type of thing?

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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 11:57am

Mark!


I'm so happy that you have had this recent wave of possibilities! This is an exciting time :o) I hope you make a few friends and I hope that one stands out from the rest, and that magic feelings captures you.


yay!!! Keep up the updates!!


:o)


~Pacific~
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In reply to: mhash
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 12:02pm

Mark, she sounds like a good match!


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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 12:35pm

We'll see.

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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 12:44pm
Ok Mark, you get the concert, I'll take you out to dinner.
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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 12:46pm

I like that explanation about how the Universe is helping me in my healing...


Funny thing about Lynn, the 56 yo nurse who seemed the most emotionally closed is that she reminds me of how CNDG was when I first met her.

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In reply to: mhash
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 12:51pm

But as I said before, relationships are self-selecting which means that if one or the other person walks or does not work out then the relationship was not meant to be.


Correct--but also think of it in the way that she came into your life at that moment for a reason--maybe it was simply to help center you and bring you to the place you are now.

April

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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 12:56pm

I know how much of a healer you are- you have a great big heart, boat loads of compassion and a lot of knowledge from both reading a million books and self life experience.


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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 1:02pm

Wow you're smoking hot!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I agree with Judy, she sounds like she could have potential. She's like me in a way, honest and upfront.


You never have to guess where I stand on anything.


I think the universe is definately on your side now, and who knows???????

The T Girl