Too fat to have sex!
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Too fat to have sex!
| Fri, 04-11-2008 - 8:20am |
Hi
I met a guy thru match.com He seems really nice and he is really cute! We just met and he asked me out for hiking as second date. Which I love the idea. Here is my question (Maybe I am just head of myself, but I am thinking we will have physical time later). I am size 10. But my belly area is size 16! I try to hide my fat belly all the time and doing really good job no one even notice I have really fat and not to mention haning! I am Sorry to even tell you that, it is really Bad!!! I work out but my belly will not go away ant time soon. Any idea on good belly work out and advice for my dirty mind?
Thanks! Truefully

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I'm happy for you, for meeting someone you like through OLD... but hold your horses here!!!!
For one thing... I'm not sure if going hiking on a second date is smart, especially if you don't know the guy too well yet (you didn't mention how well you know him at this point)- and especially not if you plan to go someplace isolated for the hike. I would put the hike off to a later date... after getting to know him better! Just for your own safety. Sorry to be such a worry-wart about it... but really, safety first.
Second... if the guy is really worth his own weight for dating... and if he really cares for you for WHO YOU ARE, the odd physical things about you won't matter! I know we've had some pretty interesting discussions here on the board about physical aspects of our bodies and things we'd change (including hanging skin-parts)... but just come to accept your body as it is. If the man you are dating can't see past physical imperfections... then he's not worth your time. And it doesn't sound like your physical issues are due to being totally unhealthy- they are just what they are. It might be different if it was a truly unhealthy issue!
And as for exercises... I don't know of ANY workout that will work specifically on that kind of thing, if loose skin is the problem. Overall conditioning can help shed fat overall- and that will help belly fat too- but there isn't anything that will work on ONLY belly fat. Not even surgery is a guarantee of anything when it comes to fat and where it's deposited. But if it's just loose skin... a tummy tuck would help remove the loose skin.
Anyway- enjoy discovering the new person! Just do it safely- and take your time! AND- report back to us how things are going! We love date stories!
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Hey Shrimpychimps
Thank you for your advice,
If you really want to work on you, not for someone else., I would recommend Windsor pilates.
Hey don't feel alone on this one :) I'm pretty small and work out but my belly still bothers me quite a bit (because it is not toned at all and saggy after the last kid, who is now 5....)
On a technical note: If he is on top, he can't see much of your belly. If you are on top, put your hands on his tummy/chest, thereby effectively blocking your stomach from view.
On a realistic note: If he is having sex with you, he probably isn't that concerned about the tummy, because you are who he wants to be with physically. You can't let loose and enjoy yourself if you are constantly worrying about your stomach.
I would suggest letting it go. The hardest thing for me was walking around in lingerie, but once I did that, I realized that he still thinks i"m sexy EVEN WHEN he can see my stomach. I haven't had his eyes checked, for fear of him being legally blind ;)
I have to agree with Shrimpy....better to be safe. As for the abs...overall working out is a good idea. Make sure you are eating healthy. I recently had a radical abdominal hysterectomy and my belly isn't going down. Mine has to do with the fact they cut through muscle though. I'm self concious of it and the 7 inch scar. I mentioned it to MCDAD and he wasn't concerned. He likes to rub my belly so I guess I worried too much...
~Karen˙·٠•●♥Ƹ̵̡Ӝ
ROFLOL!!!!!! Hey most men aren't that perfect either!
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Hey Good Morning
I thank you for all of your words, I always want to try that. I will let you know how my body changes...
Thank you,
Truefully
Hey Good morning!
I think I start to have this haning stomach problem after I had my son. My son was 10lb and 11oz!!!
Good Morning
I am happy for you and good luck
You are Right! They are not, I feel like sooo apple.
Thank you, Truefully
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