Too fat to have sex!

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Registered: 04-10-2008
Too fat to have sex!
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Fri, 04-11-2008 - 8:20am

Hi


I met a guy thru match.com He seems really nice and he is really cute! We just met and he asked me out for hiking as second date. Which I love the idea. Here is my question (Maybe I am just head of myself, but I am thinking we will have physical time later). I am size 10. But my belly area is size 16! I try to hide my fat belly all the time and doing really good job no one even notice I have really fat and not to mention haning! I am Sorry to even tell you that, it is really Bad!!! I work out but my belly will not go away ant time soon. Any idea on good belly work out and advice for my dirty mind?


Thanks! Truefully

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Registered: 02-29-2008
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 8:21am

I say you should head for the mountains! We all have imperfections and if you focus on them life kind of gets you by. I always struggled with my weight and carry the extra pounds in my mid section. Still, when it comes to men and dating this never seemed to be an issue. In fact the love of my life met and fell in love with me when I was more than 40 pounds over my ideal body weight.


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Registered: 11-03-2003
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 12:14pm

I want to compliment this board on not rushing in with a lot of 'you can lose weight' tricks, but rather see this as an attitude issue - a direct and unhealthy result of companies making mega bucks from making us hyper sensitive to size so they can make billions each year on weight-loss products - but I won't get on that soap box again.


It might help to remember that Reuben was portraying the truly great beauties of his day.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 12:35pm

I'm the same person either way, and my happiness and sexuality don't depend on my size.

~Pacific~
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 1:57pm

I agree to a certain extent.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 3:16pm

I love that pic, Mark.... all I see is the heart in your hands. :-)


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 3:31pm

Awww .. thanks Shrimpy.....


I did not realize how big the picture would come out.

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Registered: 06-21-2007
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 12:44am

I completely agree with this initial thought. I'm not overweight, and neither is my bf. This is because we both eat generally well. He works out and I'm starting to get back into it.

I realized that I can't just stay skinny by not drinking soda for a week. Not at my age when my metabolism slowed down (that bastard). So I eat better. I see me getting flabby and I get a gym membership (which I ignore for a month or so) and start working towards a goal.

So, when he starts to get a bit bigger in the tummy, I ignore it. As he does with me. I think what makes a difference is that we both know we are trying to stay healthy, which means a longer life, together.

I don't understand people who just stopped caring, because there are a lot and I see them every day. That's probably awful and I apologize if I hurt someone's feelings, but that is how it looks to people who are realizing they can't just coast on being skinny/young and have to start working at it. So how come they don't start caring and working? I know I should have more sympathy and I just don't understand becoming morbidly obese if you have no kids and your legs work and you were my size in your 20s. (These are the things I hear, so I'm not making fun of anyone)

If anyone has anything to say, and I didn't mean to hi-jack the thread, I'd be quite interested to hear it.

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