Too good to be true
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| Sat, 04-14-2007 - 10:39am |
Always is. Well it had to happen. My new guy showed his true colors, and they wer'nt pretty. we had our first arguement, and from the way he carried it on, I'm soo done, running in fact. My ex "it" was the master of control and mind games, and I learned well, and I saw this new guys games and was gone. he gave me 12 hours of the silent treatment, was rude to my son, and then wouldnt stop texting me that I needed to get over it or it was over. So it's over. I should have saw it coming, it was to good to fast, but I didnt want to let my past cloud my judgement, and I wanted so badly to have someone, so i ignored all the big red flags..Oh well, it's only been 3 weeks, and I dont love him yet, so it's easy to walk away.
I must say I'm pretty proud of myself for not letting the control take hold of me, and I also realized how much I like sleeping in my own bed, alone, and just being me hanging out at my house doing my thing. Today I get my waxing done, get my nails filled, tomorrow is shopping with a g/f, kido is gone on vacation, and I have a final next week that I havent had time to study for, so I can do that.I guess I've spoiled myself. I put a big dent in the chocolate bunny lst night, and it felt great!!

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Sorry to hear it didn't work out, but you are right to walk away.
wouldnt stop texting me that I needed to get over it or it was over
Forget resolution, just brush it under the rug?
I'm glad you had the strength to walk away- at least your past experiences have taught you that! I'm also glad you're doing you thing, making yourself happy and enjoying yourself. I'm sorry it didn't work out, but as you said, at least it was early and you aren't truly hurt by the breakup.
What were the red flags you ignored, if you don't mind me asking? The reason I do is because things with funnyguy are going so wonderfully that I worry I'm overlooking something HUGE, and maybe knowing what you did will help me see it if it's there.
Moody, too happy to be coming home tomorrow
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Bravo for standing your ground and knowing what is best for you. Single is always certainly much better than MrWrong!
Amen to chocolate rabbits!! What a great therapy! I love chocolate!! And it is so much fun to bite off the ears. Especially if the rabbit was in the refrigerator!!
Well, some of the red flags I ingnored, were, right away, after second date, he texted me all night romantic,though very sexual stuff. Like he said "now his thoughts were consumed of me"..and it was constant texting, all day this would go on.He did this for the first week steady.
He recieved alot of messages on his phone that he never told me who it was or what it was about. He would read the message, and close his phone. This happened about 6 times in the 3 weeks I was dating him.Why I didnt just ask him who it was I dont know, I just didnt feel as though I should.
This is extremely personal, and I hope I dont offend anyone,, but here goes. I think women can achieve climax 2 ways,, I happen to be wired a certain way, and a little extra "egg" help is needed.Generally the traditional soap sex doesnt work for me....He was appaulled, and said I was broken,that I didnt need a man for anything then. He was dead set against any kind of toy, no matter how quiet and disreet it was.I thought that was quite strange, but was talked out of worrying about it by friends, and encouraged to keep trying.He never wanted to do a position I liked either.
He said things that my ex IT used to say,,the mother of his kids ripped his heart out, for "no reason" and went wild for a while when he thought things were great.He got irritated by other people very easily also. He never talked about any friends,, like no guy friends, no stories about hanging out with people other than family.
So these are a few sings I should have look at a little more closely, but I kept telling myself I couldnt let my own insecurities get in the way of this and cloud my judgement..I geuss I've realized they arent insecurities, it's instinct,, and
Today BTW I had a great time. As most of you know, I live at home again, poor as heck, going to school, and I live off of 240 a week,, well you cant have a better day then coming home with 5 pair of pants, and 3 shirts that all say OLD NAVY on the tag from Goodwill for less than 50 bucks!! Go me, I'm a bargain shopper...
Edited 4/15/2007 4:46 pm ET by florence2007
Edited 4/15/2007 5:36 pm ET by florence2007
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