Traveling With The Kids

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Traveling With The Kids
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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 6:37pm
One of the cons that comes along with being a single parent is vacations. I've gotten pretty comfortable w/it just being me & the kids on different local outings, but when I start thinking about being single long-term, one of the negatives is thinking about traveling w/it just being us. I have an aunt (even though married) took a road trip w/her kids to NY (she's got major balls!, lol) but I have a hard time thinking about taking 3 kids on a trip even to just the beach by myself. Of course, you are talking to someone who still has young kids & I rarely take them out anywhere. I'm thinking maybe once the youngest are around 8 or 9, I'll feel more comfortable. Their dad has GF, so I know he's planned at least 2 trips for them (beach & Disneyland) - so it's not like the pressure's on for me to take them traveling anywhere - but I know at some point I want to.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 9:03pm
It's funny cause I am planning a vacation w/ my kids & we were talking about it last night. It definitely is challenging to take little kids on vacation by yourself. I was lucky to get my mom & aunt to go w/ me--we all went to Disney & other local places. It's definitely different when they get older. My kids are 14 & 21 now and we're only going somewhere local, mainly because the 14 yr old boy is at that difficult age where he doesn't really want to go anywhere that either involved flying or a long car ride. But I could see taking them on a big trip next year when DD graduates from college, like a cruise. I do like to travel & I have no problem making the plans & going somewhere myself.
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Registered: 09-01-2006
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 12:37pm

How old are your children now?


Part of the difficulty I have found when wanting to travel as a single parent is that many resort vacations and hotel deals are based on a two adult minimum which means I have to pay full adult rates for my 8 year old DD.

Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 2:49pm

I have to admit I have never gone with just the kids.

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Registered: 03-14-2005
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 3:23pm

That is crazy about the adult minimum - never thought about it, but that's definitely something that isn't fair.

I agree w/the other single mom thing - I have a friend who is also single & have thought about that...it's just a matter of us both having the funds at the same time.

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Registered: 08-08-2010
Mon, 08-09-2010 - 2:33am

Traveling with kids can be quite a task!! I traved via airplane with one connection to and from California to Pennsylvania a total of THREE TIMES!!!

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Registered: 03-14-2005
Mon, 08-09-2010 - 1:18pm
There's no way I would travel with age 5 or under by myself unless it was 100 percent necessary. I had twins, so I was one who didn't leave the house for about 3 years - lol. I'm just now (at age 6) feeling comfortable enough taking them on local outings by myself. I was just hoping that by next summer, I could maybe take them to the beach - not really sure though. I definitely think by 8 or 9 we will all be fine ;) lol-
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Registered: 03-25-2002
Tue, 08-10-2010 - 5:33pm

interesting discussion since i'm thinking about a trip to Vegas. Since EC and I went on our hawaii vacation without kids, i feel a little guilty going on another trip without them.


pro - i will have another adult to help, EC. there will be some activities for the children once in Vegas. And childcare is available for the adult acitivities.


con - doubles the cost of the trip. and i've never traveled by plane with them before so who knows how terrible that will be (ages 11, 7 and 6).


the flight to Vegas is one stop in Chicago. 3 hrs and 3 hrs about.


at this point i'm not sure which is better. leaving them behind with a sitter. or taking them with us on the trip. Loonybunny

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Registered: 03-14-2005
Tue, 08-10-2010 - 6:57pm

It's does seem like a hard call. EC? Sorry - not sure which abbrev. that is?

I just watched NJ Hswives where they took all the kids to Italy & all one lady could say was it was a bunch of "crazy". I think the best way to decide is if it's going to be more of a "kid friendly" trip or not - meaning if I traveled w/out them once, I would try to find a way to make up for it later w/something that was kid friendly - since I'm not even traveling myself now, then I'm not too worried about fairness these days. Also my kids will be traveling w/their dad w/out me - so, I can always use that as an ok reason for me to travel w/out them if I feel the need.

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Tue, 08-10-2010 - 7:10pm

"kid friendly" trip or not


Good point. Vegas may be more for the adults anyway.


i like what the poster said about starting small or close by. Like a 2 hour car ride vs long airplane flight.


My kids had a great time staying in a Days Inn one time. I had to go to court in the old city where i lived and had to take them along. We stayed overnight and they had a blast. It was exciting for them to be in a hotel. They couldn't tell the difference which city we were in or that we didn't go to any place fancy.


Good point... i can make it up to them by doing something fun here in town or close by.


Thanks,


Loonybunny


ps EC - is the nickname i gave for my boyfriend. it means Eye Candy.

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 9:53am
I went to the beach for a week with my family... parents, aunts, etc. and it was nice because we could do some things togehter but also apart. I got to escape out to the beach for a bit without my baby and knew she was in good hands. Or you could travel with friends in similar situations (although I dont have any single mama friends in REAL life - except rebecca since I met her).

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