Trusting SO With Your Children
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Trusting SO With Your Children
| Tue, 09-30-2008 - 7:24pm |
Hi Single Parents,
I don't have children of my own, so I don't know if this is a big deal or not and how much I should make of it.
I've been dating my BF for about a year now and my BF seems and says that he trusts me with his children.

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IMO its a huge deal. It's ultimately what can make it or break it. If my SO had issues that I could not trust my dd to be around it just would not work. For myself and speaking for a lot of single parents, it's our kids that sit at the top of the priority list so we take into consideration how our SO or date gets along with kids, does he or she like kids, does he or she have a violent past or abusive behavior...how do they interact with kids? And introducing them does not come early on, it comes after trust in the SO has been established and we think the SO is going to stick around.
It's so important that the kids like the bf or gf and vise versa.
Its good your bf trusts you with his kids. Is there an issue you are facing? Does he bring them along whe nyou go places? How often do you see them?
Trusting SO with my kids is essential.
Jenn ~~~ mom to Ashley & Elliott ~~~
I agree with the others.
Thanks for your response.
I see them all on a very regular basis.
I'm confused why you don't just talk to him about all of this? You've been together for a year now, you should be able to talk to him about how you're feeling.
As for the MIL, you'll just have to deal with her as long as he's staying in her place. In time he'll get his own place and set some new boundaries. You can talk to him then about what those boundaries are, but in the end it's his choice about what her involvement in the kid's lives are, and you'll have to accept his decision or move on.
OK - klm, here is my two cents for whatever it is worth these days.
I've been pretty cautious about that since I've been in the dating realm.
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