Tuesday thought...

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Tuesday thought...
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Tue, 03-21-2006 - 8:52pm

What do you think your life would be like if you didn't have your children?


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Wed, 03-22-2006 - 5:49am

I used to think my life would be so much easier (probably since I had Andrew when I was 17, so things were rough for a while), but now I'm really coming into my own. I like to think I'd be the same person I am now, but I know my children have made me a better person. I'm so much less selfish, more grounded, and definitely more mature than I could ever have been without them.
As far as my actual life, I probably would be placing too much emphasis on things and not enough on what really matters, like love, health, time together. I hope I'd still work hard, but I'd probably be a 25 year old slacker so many others I know who simply don't take responsibility for their actions because they have no one to be responsible for.
I know I have made some amazing friends because of my children, and I wouldn't have wanted to miss out on that, but I probably would never have met them, or been in the right frame of mind to accept them as my friends if I hadn't had children.

In short, I wouldn't trade one of life's experiences (well, I'd give up a hangover or two) for life's lessons.


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Registered: 06-29-2005
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 7:30am

What do you think your life would be like if you didn't have your children?

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 1:14pm

I can't imagine life without DS - sure it would be easier and more busy - but not nearly so meaningful or hilarious. Today he slipped into the pool in his pajamas. This is when he should be getting ready for school. I can't get too mad - that is just too cute!!

The only thing I would do differently is to change how I dated in the past - I never really cared enough about who I was dating. Never understood what it took to make a marriage work - but hey - I have a clean slate now and do believe in second chances!!

A lot of little events and decisions made me what I am today and I am so grateful - would not change a thing.

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 1:59pm
Holy Cow, its an interesting thought! I never finished grad school once DD came along (never had xh suuport anyway) so I would probably be doing something political in Ottawa and my life would be BORING BORING BORING but I probably would not realize it becasue we dont miss what we never knew. Having my children, and even surviving/escaping my abusive marriage while not in the game plan have stregthened me and shaped me into someone I like adn respect. My children inspire me to be better every day, they have re-created my life and while it is very different from what I envisioned I am very happy where it has been and where it is going. Now, I do want to finish grad school but in a slightly different area...I want to be a legal advocate for women in domestic violence situations, help them understand their rights and guide them through the legal system. I would never have this goal if my life went "according to plan".