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is this typical?
| Sun, 10-26-2008 - 12:44pm |
so is this typical for a guy.... well, i think we've seen it on the boards a lot... *sigh* men...
anyway, so now MM is saying that he "gravitates" towards me, etc. that he "pulled back"

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scares him and tempts him at the same time
that's a good line. i can believe that, too. MM has gone and forth on a weekly basis... so we'll see...
like i said, i'm glad to have many other people on my mind so i don't obsess.. like all my new meetup friends and single dad, etc. I am still chanting the HJNTIY mantra... the one who is interested will make it clear and i know what that will look like... i am learning new things everyday.
Yeah, this is the pattern I have with guys too.
hmmm.... turns out that is what happened. MM finally confessed that he is dating other women and that is why he backed off that week... he didn't feel right... But he says that when he's around me, he is drawn to me... and he apologizes for sending mixed messages.
friend zone boundary = great idea!
well let me expand... he didn't say he wanted to pursue someone else... just that he had gone out with someone else and since i have to get a sitter, etc... his head didn't feel right about dating me if he couldn't be exclusive. Even though we didn't even have that talk.... it makes sense.
i'm processing now by the way....
what he did say was that he feels a strong connection to me. doesn't know how we can get to know each other with our different schedules. hmmmm and that he didn't know where to go from here.. or what to do with his feelings towards me...
yes, i'm confused. i feel like I need cave time. ugh.
Great update!!
And yea.. I think it is typical for some (maybe many) men. They get a bit freaked out by the early intensity and feelings and worry about a woman getting too dependant on him maybe. SO when you proved that you don't "need" him and started doing your won thing again he felt the room and comfort to move towards you again.
... but now he sees that i can take care of myself...
Sorry, but NO-DUH, MM!! Funny how guys don't always see that at first. I think its good that you keep things more casual and less intense at this point with MM, because he's pretty flinchy about things it seems. And I like how Single Dad sounds. I hope you get a chance to talk with him more.
I thought i would have it better processed by now.. but i don't. I really don't know what MM is trying to say...
I find it very hard to respond to someone who says "i don't know what i want"... ya know. My thoughts earlier today were "I don't know what i want" = "i don't want you".... it felt like a rejection email but i said to myself... don't over react... process process process. stay sane... I've told myself.
When i reread his email this after noon, i get a slightly different take... i feel he wants to be friends. yet he can't help the strong connection that we have.. doesn't know what to tell me... hence the reason he keeps going back and forth week after week. He admitted that he's sending mixed signals, etc. He also wrote that he's put all his card out on the table now.. which i don't know what that means because he said "i don't know what i want".... ay ya aya.... what cards did he put on the table... all of them have question marks.
So, i need to get back to what I, Loonybunny, want.. LOL..... i want to see where things go with him. It's been a long while since i've felt a connection to someone this strong, this complex, this unusual (for lack of a better word).... his mind fascinates me and yet drives me nuts at the same time. . . I can
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