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| Sun, 01-16-2005 - 4:43pm |
Okay - this weekend I went out with my girlfriends to a bar on the beach that features a rock band. Their guy friends go there - it is a lot of guys from an accounting office. We went there last weekend, too, since one of their friends plays a few songs on the guitar for the band - kind of a fun thing for him.
That guy, who is a partner in the accounting office, told my friends to bring me again. He is 42, my same age, divorced, no kids and is in shape - used to be a body builder.
At any rate, he saw us sitting at the patio bar outside. And came to talk to us. He kept going back inside and then coming back out and he was asking me questions and "chatting me up." Finally his girlfriend came out to find him - she must have wondered what he was doing. She looks like a bar troll. ICK. She wasn't pleased when she saw him talking to us and I don't blame her.
Of the nerve!! He sounded kind of good because he is in shape and the partner of an accounting firm. But that behavior is not unacceptable and he dresses in Harley motorcycle clothes which is a turnoff for me.
So he is nixed but at least we had a fun evening out.
I have kind of given up on dating and men for the moment. Most of the men my age are a wreck - out of shape - with a lot of baggage and no desire/time for a relationship.
I don't want someone to hurt me or become a burden. I have a very good life.
I want someone who wants to stay in shape and who has their life together and will be that into me and good for my son. I feel that is impossible at the moment!!

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Thank you!! You are an angel!!!
You added a lot of ideas and thoughts that I didn't think of - like the part where he only talked about himself. That is a good observation and I thank you for sharing that!!
Typical game player!
Judy - I don't think your standard is too high at all. I think you are in SUCH a healthy place. Too bad that guy was a creep. You just can never tell.
Glad you had fun. I am very sure that the right man will come along that will fit INTO your wonderful healthy stable life, instead of turning it upside down.
Hug hug hug
I'm sorry darlin! The guy sounds like such a creep! Harley stuff? UGH! No way! I'm with you on the no motorcycles. I'm over that period in my life when I thought they were cool (like 18?). I believe, that if I ever get together with a man, it will have to be someone divorced. Not someone that has never been married and has no children. I have come to terms with wanting to be with a man that may have cheated on his wife. I think some men as well as women, do learn their leasons from that at a certain age. I wouldn't condemn him right away, unless of course, he did it an awful way. Does that make sense? Like if he had no scrouples; like my husband had none. My father for instance, never cheated again, when he found the love of his life and he was married 3 times. But, go figure, it's been 25yrs and they are still madly in love.
I have come to realize though, that quite a few men also have been burnt very badly and do carry lot's of baggage, BUT I have come to realize, it's because women also have loads of affairs on their men. I used to think that was a man thing, but have come to realize it isn't and does do some damage to them, as it does to us. Women carry serious baggage as well, I for instance, still have a problem with trust, etc. I have decided that it will take a very special person that can help me get over that. Someone, that also has been through heartache and each of us helps to hold the other persons hand in doubt.
The guy I am interested in now, went through the same sad story as some of us have. We can connect so much better and both of us are alot more in tune to our feelings. Trying not to shut one another out or saying the other one doesn't understand, because each of us understand too good.
I'm telling you Judy, the guy I told you about, would be a real winner. He also excercises everyday with either jogging or cycling or whatever. LOL
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